Masturbation is a healthy process, no one should feel ashamed for wanting to engage in it. Like we all know, masturbation is all about self pleasure, or as i love to refer to it, self actualization, which is as much a lady thing as it is a man thing. Over the years, ladies have found it difficult to engage themselves in masturbation (honestly, it took a ton in me to realize that masturbation doesn’t make you a pervert).
I know, right? Most of you still think that masturbation is a deal breaker, like why not just find a partner to pleasure you? Remember, no one knows and understand your body better than you do! So finding a partner and having sex is not a guarantee that they will satisfy you fully, unless people out here talk about their G-spots (am not much of a talker, surprising me always takes the trophy home).
Masturbation doesn’t always have to be in place for someone who is single. It is advisable for couples to engage is masturbation too because as i have stated earlier, talking about your G-spots is not always fun, show your partner how to go about your body, take control of where, how and when to shoot a shot, and thank me later. Have you ever touched yourself while your partner is watching? Well, if not, this should be in your bucket list; especially if your parner is battling erectile dysfunction.
I could go on and on about masturbation, but did you know that it is actually good for your health? Here’s why:
- Masturbation helps reduce stress- Just like any stress reliever or muscle relaxer, masturbation calms your nerves and does away with the stress that your body is enduring, but you have to ejaculate to feel the relaxation.
- Masturbation helps sleep better- Nothing makes a grown ass person sleep better than peace of mind, a good dinner, some great sex, and masturbation.
- Masturbation improves your body image- The idea being that women and men who masturbate are more able to associate sexual pleasure with their bodily responses and, in doing so, develop greater satisfaction with their bodies.
- Masturbation improves your vaginal health- A good blood flow in the vagina keeps your ‘nunu’ healthy, nothing improves the blood flow better than masturbation.
- Masturbation quells cramps- Yieks! Right? Well, if you are comfortable with having sex while on your period (this has actually been scientifically proven to reduce cramps) then try masturbating, it is actually the easiest way to self pleasure during this time given that fun fact, not all men are okay with period sex.
Ready to explore your body and ejaculate? Here are orgasmic ways to masturbate like a total pro!
- Find Your Stroke/Clit
The clitoris, (a.k.a. your best friend) is where the masturbation magic usually happens- Just like the penis tip is the tick of the clock. For men, find your stroke. How does your penis like to be touched? Find the stroke and switch it up. For ladies, once you have located your clit (find a diagram of the female anatomy if you can’t locate your clit), now find the stroke/ rub that hits your nerves just the right way.
2. Take Your Time
Do not rush, explore every inch of your body. Take your sweet time to especially visit your non-genital erogenous zones. Is it the nipples for you? Take time to massage them and don’t get afraid of getting fetish. Some people find pleasure in their inner thighs, explore and climax. It is not always about the genitals. Find the areas in your body that make you tick.
3. Use Lube
Just as the clitoris is your best friend, your other best friend is the lube. Lubricant your genitals to avoid friction which may cause friction and thus blisters around your genitalia (you don’t want those around your honey pot, trust me). To men, ‘mafuta ya ng’ombe sio kamua…. naonanga wavulana wakinunua alafu wanasema wamegundua‘- visit a sex shop or a supermarket and find a friendly lube, they even come in flavors. And just like Arimis has been commonly used by our men for masturbation, ladies, don’t think i have forgotten that ‘mate mmetumia kuteleza‘-
4. Give Your Balls Some Love
Finding your stroke is a very important aspect in masturbation, but it is not the only aspect. Don’t lay all your focus in the strokes, show your balls some love too- massage then and let the tingling sensation run through your spine. This has really helped many men climax.
5. Anal Stimulation
Try using your finger or a small butt plug by inserting in your anus. This is not only applicable to women but men also- prostrate stimulation. FYI, it is not a gay move! Be sure to go slowly and relax your anus before insertion. Also, note that, lube your butt plug or finger before having an anal stimulation.
6. Know Your Genital Erogenous Zones
Explore and know the places that feel really good when touched, for men, the scrotum and perineum have proven to be the most arousal zones. For ladies, the clitoris has always taken them to cloud nine.
7. Try Different Position
Just like sex, the more the adventure, the more the fun. Masturbation doesn’t have to be just in missionary position, try every possible position that comes in your mind and go with the wave. For anal stimulation, switch position to doggy style- nothing hits hard than getting the feel of the butt plug in you.
8. Use Vibrators and Sex Toys
Toys are fun, especially those that bring a different kind of pleasure to the party.
9. Try Masturbation With a Partner
Are your bedroom matters satisfying? Would you like to try new ideas? Look no more! Try masturbating while your partner is watching. It will not only arouse you but your partner too. This helps boost your sex libido and gives you and your partner great sex! Is your boyfriend or husband suffering from erectile dysfunction? You might want to try this.
10. Watch Ethical Pornography While Masturbating
If your imagination is not cutting the slack, don’t trip because i’ve got you! Visit pornography sites like porn hub, xxx videos, xnxx videos among others to help you out. You can find free porn online or opt to subscribe or buy some high standard porn to help with masturbation. Not a visual viewer? Download erotic sound and plug in your earphones or headsets. It helps set the correct mood that you so need.
PS: You might want to lock your door before starting off. Nothing kills the mood than your mother or family member walking in to you masturbating. As much as it is not a shameful act, masturbation should be private, unless the person that walks into that doors would like to join into the fun!