Ever woken up, confused and aroused? Thinking of why you keep having sex dreams with you as the main character? You are not alone.
Sex dreams are normal- in fact, there is nothing like too much of it- and dreaming of engaging in sexual activities with other people rather than your partner is also okay. Just like the white man said, if wishes were horses, it’s the beggers that would ride. Don’t feel intimidated about the sex dreams or feel like you are cheating on your partner by having them (tho some would argue that it is cheating).
What Can Dreams Tell?
Dreams relate to what is happening in your real waking world. So if you are having sex dreams with someone you know, who is not your partner, you might want to revisit your feeling. The dream is just fixing what is already there. So as much as it is not cheating on your partner, you are not entirely honest with them about your feelings.
Just like your bestie might visit you in your dreams for sex, you might also be dreaming about having sex with a total stranger. Normally, if you take a closer look on this stranger, you will realize it is the “man” or “woman” of your dreams. Not everyone is dating the exact version of partner they have always dream of- lakini si ni life? Mostly, the stranger in your sex dreams is always the partner you have always wanted to have- the tall, dark and handsome– the light, shorter, with big nyash and juggs- Having fantasies is basically okay, but what are these dreams trying to tell you? Keep reading to find out.
How To Derive The Meaning of Sex Dreams
It is not just a dream like any other, and as much as you want to assume it is nothing, it actually is something.
When sex shows up in your dreams, break it down into a story that has a beginning, a middle, and an end, and focus on experiencing the feelings in your dream and being curious about where the energy of the dream leads you, specifically of how the dream ends. We all attach different meanings to different scenarios, however, there’s always a common theme that appears in sex dreams. Find it, and focus on it. Here are some examples of sex dreams you might be having and their meanings:
1 Sex with someone other than your partner. MEANING: It may be that your partner is not satisfying you fully. Come to think of it, are all your needs really met?
2. Recurring sex with an ex. MEANING: You are not over your ex yet. If you already have a new partner and you are still dreaming about an ex, then this just means that your ex’s sex game cannot be compared to your new partner’s. Even your conscious knows the ex was good in bed, probably your 50 shades.
3. BDSM sex dreams (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism). MEANING: You like being a sex slave, you love being overpowered in bed, you probably are a lover of being choked while dicked down. You might want to have a talk with your partner about visiting a sex shop and upping your sex game!
4. Oral sex dreams. MEANING: You secretly desire oral sex but in real life, you feel disgusted by it. You should put your dream into practice and find out if oral sex is a path worth taking for you.
5. Sex with your lecturer or boss. MEANING: You fantasize about being loved by an authoritative figure. It is not always just about getting the grades and special treatment, so if you have a partner and you are fucking your lecturer or your boss in your dreams, you probably don’t want to tell your partner about this one.
6. Sex with a celebrity. MEANING: We all have a celebrity who we desire more even tho we know we will never have actual sex with them. If you are dreaming of having sex with your celebrity crush, it is just because they have something you really admire and want.
Dreaming about sex isn’t typically someone’s worst nightmare. So, have no fear if you’re happily coupled up and still dreaming about sleeping with strangers or your boss. Sex in a dream most often represents a desire to connect to some internal aspect of that person, like a trait or behavior, rather than their physical body.