Does body count count?
The current dating culture often emphasizes that two people should test their “sexual chemistry” before committing to each other.
This type of compatibility is frequently mentioned as an essential characteristic for people to seek out in romantic relationships, particularly ones that could lead to marriage. Couples who do not test their sexual chemistry prior to the commitments of exclusivity, engagement, and marriage are often seen as putting themselves at risk of getting into a relationship that will not satisfy them in the future—thus increasing their probability of later marital dissatisfaction and divorce.
My question is, does one’s sexual experience affect how their partner perceive them in the relationship? Is it okay for one to have more experience than the other? If the woman has more experience, should that raise questions for the man? What if the man is the more experienced one, is it a plus in the sex game for the woman?
The list is endless! Let us be real, we all ask ourselves these questions sometimes, but do we get answers to them? Everyone’s different, and what’s important for some may not be at all important for others. It ultimately depends on your personal beliefs, physical desires, and the nature of your relationship.
For every new relationship you find yourself in, there comes a time when you and your partner speak of the past and plan for the future, especially when things are becoming pretty serious and commitment is becoming genuine.
Of all the sexual things you can ask from bae/boo though, the sexual experience question is not necessary. And this is simply because some things are just better left unknown, some information better left undiscovered. Let people divulge it willingly if they choose to. And if they don’t, that’s fine too. Don’t bother them for it. Don’t stress them about it.
Women don’t think of the number of women a man has been with before loving them as they should. Why can’t they be accorded the same courtesy?
Besides, there’s no assurance that the figure she’ll tell you is the accurate thing. And how would you know if she downplayed the numbers just so you don’t run off or start acting strange because of the truth?
Really, it’s simple; if you think she is kind, smart, intelligent and fun to be with, how does her body count suddenly change all of the positive vibes you feel with her?
Come to think of it, the only gain you get from knowing about your partner’s sexual experience history is satisfaction for your curiosity.
Does it even matter if he/she is pretty good in bed and have kinky ideas he/she likes to try? Is overthinking worth spoiling the priceless intimate time you’d have had with your partner? So what if he/she is a master/mistress in sexual positions? Will that improve your dating experience?
Most times, guys can’t even deal with the truth especially when the babe in question is one that has truly explored her sexuality before they came into the picture.
I find this hysterical given the joke (that’s not a joke) that says; If you want to know the actual number of sexual partners a man has had you take the number he tells you and cut in half. If you want the number for a woman you take the number she tells you and multiply by three. I know that’s an over generalization but in my experience it’s not off by much. Now, to the facts.
This is where I get to talk about how unfair it is that guys could have slept with over 10 girls and will be hailed a champ and a woman does the same and she’s a tramp. That just doesn’t seem right especially now that gender equality is being called for more.
Ladies, you are all absolutely free to do whatever & whoever you wish. However, every choice any of us makes has a consequence, good or bad. Our entire lives are directed by each choice we make each day. If you want to hook up with every Tom, Dick & Harry (T, D & H) that’s your choice.
If I don’t want to have a relationship with or marry you because you’ve hooked up with every T, D & H that’s my choice. No man wants to marry & no child wants their mother to be, or to have been, the town bicycle.
If there ever was a list of information that do not have any bearing on that beautiful relationship/marriage happiness you seek, the sexual experience question surely has to be in the top five.
It’s that unimportant.
The bottom line
What’s important is that you find a partner who understands your needs and desires, no matter what they are. Open communication is essential for every romantic and sexual relationship.
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