You can have sex in ways that are fulfilling, fun, good and generous, or you can have sex in ways that are harmful, bad and dangerous. Marriage is not, and has never been, a way to protect against the harmful, bad and dangerous potential of sex.

A few years back, a lot of teens were taking something called the “purity pledge”, wherein they vow not to have sex until they get married. That was why so many virgins were out here “staying pure” till marriage. Well, it used to work back then but now, things have clearly changed. Sex is not just for married people, but also the couples that are just dating and practically anyone who is up for it. Sex is no longer for reproduction purposes thanks to family planning methods, its for bonding and also for fun.

Yes, I said fun! Dating is overrated, people are having flings and entanglements just for purely sex with no strings attached. Hey, I’m all for people putting off sex until they’re adults and can handle the ramifications, but let us be real, would you marry someone you have never been intimate with? Do you think it is important to have sex before marriage?

I think sex before marriage is very important because it is part of the courtship. Marrying the devil you know we all agree is better than marrying the angel you don’t know. Back to the sex, you need to know what you are dealing with before walking into a marriage, those lasts forever! Here is what you need to know:

Sex itself.
Not everyone is great in bed, and most people don’t start out very good at all. A lot of good sex is about listening to your partner and being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone is a good listener or responder unless you try it first?

Size.
Don’t you want to know if your husband is packing a hunting rifle or a tiny little plastic kid’s pistol? After all, he knows how big your boobs are. I’m not saying size would be a deal breaker, but don’t you have the right to know what’s down there?

Sexual issues.
Sexual problems like premature ejaculation, inability to get an erection, or even an allergy to your partner’s semen are all possibilities, wouldn’t you rather deal with those issues before you’re married? This way you know if your future is even going to address them.

Let’s face it, sex plays a big role in marriage. Just like you should discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live before tying the knot, sex is too big a part of a relationship to leave to chance.
Is sex before marriage a sin biblically?

I have been told so many times that the bible says sex before marriage is a sin. However, when asked to provide exactly where this rule is listed in the Bible, the answer from many Christians is much less confident. My belief that premarital sex is sinful has been shattered.

So what is the truth about having sex outside of marriage?
The truth is that we are having the wrong conversation over and over again. In an attempt to justify what is believed to be common knowledge, we are pulling at any verse that has an inkling of resemblance to premarital sex. We are using these verses, devoid of their context and circumstance, in order to justify a belief that does not have much merit.

An important part about reading the Bible is understanding those circumstances under which it was written and how it can be applied to today’s society. What is written about sex before marriage in the Bible comes predominantly from the book of 1 Corinthians, written by Paul.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 says “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body’s a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

This verse can be interpreted to mean that God is in control of our bodies. While it is undeniable that glorifying God through celibacy or through your body is a way to honor God, this verse is also getting at the submissive role of women at this time in the world.

We are having the wrong conversation. Marriage, in its traditional sense, is not the only covenant we are making with each other. Instead of asking ourselves, “Is it immoral to have sex before marriage?” we should be tailoring the question to fit our unique needs, which depend upon our individual circumstances and commitment to another person. Sex before marriage is not a sinful act.
There you go my girl
Such a good topic though got a question
Like having sex with more than 1 partner though not married,,,,, ain’t that a sin
Of course it’s a sin we’ve normalized 😂😂
It is a sin… Many partners is not advisable… But have sex and jiheshimu… Fanya hii kitu na mtu mmoja
In my opinion, it is… If a new testament was written today, sex won’t be thrown on the Cross, having many partners might
I agree
People should have sex and get to know their sexual partners before having them for life
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