Dealing With A Broke Boyfriend- The ‘Wanangoja Deal Ziivane’

You cannot go into this kind of relationship based on half-baked convictions. Hell no. You need to be pretty sure that this is what you want, and that you are prepared for whatever comes out of it. You also need to be reasonably sure of the kind of guy you’re about to date.

Being broke isn’t a crime. The issue is not that your man is broke and uneducated, but whether or not he plans to stay that way. A broke man is one that is both helpless, and refuses to get help in order to improve his income capacity.

No woman wants to date or marry a broke guy. It’s unfortunate when you think about how women always say, “There aren’t enough good men out there”. The truth is, there are. But they don’t all come making big bucks. Some are blue collar, others have bad credit records. But the flip side is some of those very men are supportive of their women, creative and ambitious. With the right woman, who knows where such a man will be in the future.

But let us be real and live in the present, we will cross the ‘future’ bridge when we get there. The question is, how long will you hold up the strong front before you crumble in the face of this financial chaos? Does he want help with prioritizing his income? Is he open about his finances and plans? Is he stuck in that financial rut or does he have practical plans to better his situation? Do you see a future between you guys? How well is he treating you? Only once you have answered these questions can you find a way forward.

Frankly, while it is admirable that you don’t care about his financial status at the moment, you still need to be sure of his drive and desire to not be broke for too long. What’s his attitude towards getting his finances right? It’d be catastrophic to say you love someone who is broke now and sits on his behind without plan and effort to break free from his present situation.

That he does not have a job at the moment or that he’s down on his luck does not disqualify him from finding love; and if you find yourself falling for a guy like this, here are things you need to know:

There’ll be inconveniences

There’ll be that, and there’ll also be sacrifices. You know those things that your former boyfriend used to do because he could afford it? Sorry, this new guy won’t be able to. You know those great, cute gifts your friends get from their boyfriends and post on Instagram? Sorry ma’am, you might not be able to post them for a while.

And hey, you might also have to share some of your salary with him while he’s still waiting to find his feet. It comes with the territory.

The sex is [always] on point

Ok. It’s not like there is empirical evidence or some stat to back up this assertion, but word on the streets support it. It is believed that broke guys somehow have mad sex skills and often try to make up for their financial weakness with sexual prowess.

 It could end in disaster

I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news but the fact that you stood by a guy when he has nothing is not assurance that your love will be forever. It’s cruel and sad, but that’s how it is.

You could run all the supportive girlfriend scheme, you could be loyal and faithful and prayerful and you could even hand him your ATM card and he’ll still do you dirty when he hits it big.

See, some guys don’t even wait to hammer before they start to misbehave. You’ll be funding him, and he’ll be using your own money to cheat on you.

This is the kind of stuff that happens, guys.

Let’s just hope it doesn’t happen to you.