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Dealing With A Broke Boyfriend- The ‘Wanangoja Deal Ziivane’
You cannot go into this kind of relationship based on half-baked convictions. Hell no. You need to be pretty sure that this is what you want, and that you are prepared for whatever comes out of it. You also need to be reasonably sure of the kind of guy you’re about to date.
Being broke isn’t a crime. The issue is not that your man is broke and uneducated, but whether or not he plans to stay that way. A broke man is one that is both helpless, and refuses to get help in order to improve his income capacity.
No woman wants to date or marry a broke guy. It’s unfortunate when you think about how women always say, “There aren’t enough good men out there”. The truth is, there are. But they don’t all come making big bucks. Some are blue collar, others have bad credit records. But the flip side is some of those very men are supportive of their women, creative and ambitious. With the right woman, who knows where such a man will be in the future.
But let us be real and live in the present, we will cross the ‘future’ bridge when we get there. The question is, how long will you hold up the strong front before you crumble in the face of this financial chaos? Does he want help with prioritizing his income? Is he open about his finances and plans? Is he stuck in that financial rut or does he have practical plans to better his situation? Do you see a future between you guys? How well is he treating you? Only once you have answered these questions can you find a way forward.
Mature black couple embracing on sofa while looking to each other. Romantic black man embracing woman from behind while laughing together. Happy african wife and husband loving in perfect harmony.
Frankly, while it is admirable that you don’t care about his financial status at the moment, you still need to be sure of his drive and desire to not be broke for too long. What’s his attitude towards getting his finances right? It’d be catastrophic to say you love someone who is broke now and sits on his behind without plan and effort to break free from his present situation.
Young black couple feeling sad after arguing on sofa at home.
That he does not have a job at the moment or that he’s down on his luck does not disqualify him from finding love; and if you find yourself falling for a guy like this, here are things you need to know:
There’ll be inconveniences
There’ll be that, and there’ll also be sacrifices. You know those things that your former boyfriend used to do because he could afford it? Sorry, this new guy won’t be able to. You know those great, cute gifts your friends get from their boyfriends and post on Instagram? Sorry ma’am, you might not be able to post them for a while.
And hey, you might also have to share some of your salary with him while he’s still waiting to find his feet. It comes with the territory.
The sex is [always] on point
Ok. It’s not like there is empirical evidence or some stat to back up this assertion, but word on the streets support it. It is believed that broke guys somehow have mad sex skills and often try to make up for their financial weakness with sexual prowess.
It could end in disaster
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I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news but the fact that you stood by a guy when he has nothing is not assurance that your love will be forever. It’s cruel and sad, but that’s how it is.
You could run all the supportive girlfriend scheme, you could be loyal and faithful and prayerful and you could even hand him your ATM card and he’ll still do you dirty when he hits it big.
Break up, relationship problems. Unhappy african-american man and woman standing back to back on gray background, copy space
See, some guys don’t even wait to hammer before they start to misbehave. You’ll be funding him, and he’ll be using your own money to cheat on you.
This is the kind of stuff that happens, guys.
Let’s just hope it doesn’t happen to you.
October 8, 2021
How Do I Know Am Dating A Narcissist? 6 Signs Your Partner Is A Narcissist!
A person who takes too many selfies, seems to only talk about themselves when you are together, and interrupts you constantly when you are speaking could be a narcissist!
As we had to 2026, the goal should be creating an evironment that is healthy enough for you to prosper.
Having a narcisistic person around will not help that, in this article, we are going to explore six most common characters that will help you spot a narcisist even from a mile away.
Do they only talk about themselves? Are they always taking selfies when you’re supposed to be hanging out? Do they constantly interrupt you? You might be dating a narcissist.
A narcissist is described as a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. Narcissists can be incredibly harmful people to have relationships with.
I know at this point you are asking yourself questions like, “Is it bad for someone to have self-admiration?” No its not, unless they are narcissists! How can you know if someone in your life is a narcissist?
I’m not a psychologist, I’m just a blogger, but I have studied this one a little bit simply because I needed to, because of some of my own encounters with people who exhibit some antisocial behaviors.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is so toxic and most people hardly accept to leave such relationships if they are the ones affected.
It gets toxic and instead of walking out, they stay and think that the toxicity is part of their love story. It’s more psychological torture which is worse than physical torture.
So a narcissist fundamentally is a person who is just extremely self-centered, but there are certain traits that betray their self-centeredness. They have just an extreme, kind of a grandiose view of their own self-importance, they are the center of the universe. Narcissists have enough esteem for themselves and everyone around them. Most people with this disorder aren’t always aware they have it.
Now you won’t pick that out necessarily right from the start in the classic narcissist, because if a narcissist comes across as very self-centered, that’s going to hurt them having any chance of bringing anybody into their circle and to have relationships.
And so they often come across as very charming individuals and maybe even caring individuals, intelligent, but beneath the surface, once you get to know them, you realize that they think that they’re really, really, really important.
And they’ll be sending you clues to let you know that before too long. And if you keep listening to them they’ll be just outright telling you how you can’t get on without them, because they’re just so important. And so they’re living in a bit of a fantasy world where everybody else is expendable, except for them.
Here are signs that you are dating a narcissist:
- All about me, me, me!
This you can’t miss. They will cut you short in conversation and constantly deflect back to them. The conversation always revolves around how great they are in a much exaggerated manner. Like “I can’t believe how successful I am, I worked so hard and now look at me.”
It’s all about ‘floss’ mode with narcissists. You must see what they have and how great they are doing! Plus, they sometimes put down others in the process to exaggerate their real or perceived grandiose achievements.
- The world owes me this!
They expect preferential treatment when there is no need for it. They will be upset at the slightest aversion from special attention or treatment. When you are on a date, for example, watch how they treat the waiters or support staff. They are more likely to bark orders at them or be extremely rude and condescending to them.
- I want you…but I don’t want you
You will always experience a sense of withdrawal or apprehension when you push for a commitment from a narcissist. It will always be a push to remain in the status quo – ‘this works just fine, why label it or make it official?’ They may say or insinuate something deeper, but never actually commit to it. Anything that pins them down and forces them to compromise what they believe is their convenience is unthinkable.
- No one’s better than me, including you
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No one can ever be better, or more talented, or earn more, or get more recognition in the eyes and world of a narcissist. It’s them or nothing! If they get into a situation where they may be the less talented or less superior one, they will do anything they can to tear the other person down. They may mock appearance, make passive-aggressive jokes, rudely comment about competence or just tear people down by ridiculing them. Sound familiar?
- I’ll hurt you, but I’ll be charming about it
It may sound bizarre because there is nothing wrong with being charming; it is an inherently good trait to have. But remember that narcissists have an end game: to have what they want at any cost, which means you. You are the cost. They will be charming and romantic when they need to be. Very flirtatious, lots of compliments, expensive dates, dinners and grand gestures, just to get what they want out of you.
- You’re a toy in my hand…
Narcissists see their partners as tools. Everything they do which, on the surface seems kind and considerate, is an agenda to demonstrate their illusions of grandeur. Sometimes, making sure you join him at his hang out with his boys is to make them jealous of his new girl/boyfriend – not because he wanted to spend quality time with you. Or maybe, when he convinces you to move in together, you pay all the bills and cater to his every need. And when you raise it? The violent reaction will be more than enough to keep you silent.
Narcissistic painting by Paul Griffin
And unfortunately,
Narcissists aren’t quick to learn. When they do fall, it’s everyone else’s fault, it’s not their fault, and they’re just purely the victim. And if you were involved in any way, well, you’re the problem. And people who are soft hearted and empathetic, sometimes take the blame themselves because the narcissist is able to successfully convince them that, “You’re the whole problem here.”
October 6, 2021
Baby Shower of the Year, Rotimi and Vanessa Mdee Celebrate Their Unborn Child (PHOTOS)
Tanzanian singer, Vanessa Mdee and her lover Rotimi have finally had a beautiful baby shower for their unborn child.
The two lovebirds have revealed adorable images from their baby shower, which took place on September 17th. Close friends and family members attended the gathering.
Their fans were ecstatic over the same. On their Instagram accounts, the ecstatic pair both captioned the photographs;
”Baby Shower vibes”
Mdee and her fiancé Rotimi surprised their fans around the world earlier this month when they announced that they are expecting their first child together on September 7.
The Love Birds
Rotimi’s desire came true late last year when he proposed to Vanessa Mdee with an engagement ring. Their love is now living proof that when it comes to love, manifestation is genuine.
The ‘Power’ star has finally married the love of his life, after yearning for her to find him in 2015. Rotimi couldn’t keep calm as he shared the news that he proposed to his girlfriend Vanessa Mdee with a dazzling ring fit for his queen.
They serve more than just a few of objectives. Rotimi just gave Mdee a brand new Range Rover and purchased a similar vehicle for himself. This was one of the rare gifts that kept couples awake at night. Vanessa also uploaded a video of Rotimi strewing notes all over her.
September 19, 2021
List and Information on All the Women Diamond Platnumz has Dated
1. Rehema Fabian
Rehema Fabian and who currently, in 2025, resides in Hong Kong claims she is the first woman Diamond Platnumz dated. The Miss Kiswahili 2009 claims that Diamond promised to marry her while they were secretly dating.
Moreover, she claims her relationship ended when she traveled to Arusha and Diamond announced in public that he was dating Wema Sepetu.
2. Upendo Mushi
Diamond dated Bongo actress Upendo Mushi before he hit the celebrity life jackpot. The two, however, broke up after only five months with claims that he was poor in bed. These claims were never substantiated.
3. Aunty Ezekiel
Notably, Diamond fooled around with Bongo actress Anti Ezekiel before he dumped her and moved on with another woman.
In 2025, Aunt Ezekiel is currently in a relationship with Kusah but before he was in a relationship with Diamond’s dancer Moze Iyobo.
4. Wema Sepetu
- Birthday: 28 September 1990
- Age in 2025: 34 years old
Notably, Wema Sepetu was Miss Tanzania in the year 2006. She founded the Endless Fame and is one of the most celebrated and Award Winning Actress from Tanzania.
Wema sepetu during Uzinduzi wa Dira 2050
In addition, Wema is also the CEO of Little Sweethearts baby slayers and Wema App.
Respectively, Diamond was in an on and off relationship with Wema Sepetu for a long time. And he cheated on her with several women leading to their breakup in 2014.
However, her relationship with Diamond lasted the longest time compared to the others including Zari and Tanasha.
5. Penny Mungilwa
Penniel Mungilwa popularly known as Penny dated Diamond way back in 2013. She was among Wema Sepetu’s friends who Diamond cheated with. Penny and Diamond broke up in 2013 after it emerged that the two were cousins.
6. Jokate Mwegelo
Jokate Mwegelo is the current U.R.T President’s Office and the District Commissioner Kisarawe Tanzania. Additionally, Mwegelo is a University of Dar es Salaam Alumni as well as a proud citizen of the United Republic of Tanzania. Even though Jokate themes herself as the Servant of the People in Tanzania, she is one of Wema’s friends too.
But CHIBU too cheated on her during their love triangle surroundings. However, their relationship came to an end when Wema found out that Jokate had stabbed her in the back. The two ladies still have a beef to date.
7. Jacqueline Wolper
Jacqueline Wolper or rather Wolper Stylish is a renowned Tanzanian Movie Star. In addition, she is also a businesswoman and the C.E.O House of Stylish based in Tanzania. Remarkably, Diamond Platnumz dated Bongo actress Jacqueline Wolper for several months before they parted ways.
Wolper went on to get in a relationship with Diamond’s protégé Harmonize before they broke up too sometimes in 2017.
8. Hamisa Mobetto
Hamisa Mobetto is one of the longest time known girlfriend to the Tetema hitmaker. In addition, apart from being the mainstream video vixen, she is also an entrepreneur, a model, an actress, a fashion designer, a musician and the founder of mombetto styles.
He was sleeping with Hamisa at his Madale home in Dar es Salaam as Zari stayed with kids in South Africa. He has a third child, Abdul Nasibu, with the model Hamisa Mobetto.
9. Zari the Boss Lady
Zari Hassan or rather Zari the Boss Lady is one of the most influential Diamond’s baby mama. Just like her co-wife Hamisa Mobetto, she too is a renowned Ugandan Musician, Mummylicious, Reality TV Star, Entrepreneur, Philanthropist and of the shareholders to the Brooklyn City College. When Diamond broke up with Wema Sepetu in 2014, he hooked up with Zari the Boss Lady.
On the other hand, Zari herself had just lost her wealthy husband from a sudden demise. He sired two kids with Zari while they cohabited. Zari argued that Diamond cheated on her multiple times. Where she finally decided to dump him on February 14th, 2018.
Thereafter, Diamond started rekindling his love with Wema Sepetu. With his former spouse, South African based Ugandan businesswoman Zari Hassan, he has two children, Latifah Dangote, and Nillan Dangote.
10. Tunda Sebastian
Little is known of the whereabouts of Tunda Sebastian apart from that she is a top Celebrated Video Vixen, Model, Beautician, and Fashionista from Tanzania. However, it is believed that Diamond was fooling around with this Bongo socialite in late 2017.
Immediately after Diamond Platnumz announced the separation between her baby mama Zari Hassan. He never acknowledged that Tunda was his side chick despite all the tabled ‘evidence’.
11. Tanasha Donna
Although this may be true, Tanasha Donna accredits herself to the surroundings of being a woman of God. You’ll see more through Tanasha Donna official Instagram Account.
The two met for the first time during a recent Wasafi Tour extravaganza. Then the rest happened so quickly and the rest became history.
12. Zuchu
Zuchu (Zuhura Othman Soud), a Tanzanian singer signed to WCB Wasafi, publicly confirmed she and Diamond Platnumz were dating in November 2022. Around the same time, Diamond’s mother referred to Zuchu as her “daughter‑in‑law” in a birthday tribute, further fueling confirmation of their romance.
In early 2023, Diamond formally acknowledged the relationship publicly. However, by February 2023, he announced on social media that they had broken up, stating that they were now “like brother and sister, not lovers”.
Despite this, in June 2025, Diamond announced that he and Zuchu had actually been married in a private Muslim ceremony, though a larger public celebration had not yet taken place. Zuchu was seen celebrating the union and declaring “we are married,” while Diamond said the smaller ceremony was meant to keep their focus on music and came before a bigger event later on.
September 19, 2021
21 Cheap and Free places to take your Girlfriend for a Date in Nairobi (2025 Update)
Free Places for Dates in Nairobi
1. Arboretum
The Arboretum is a vast open area that seems like a very thick woodland located a few kilometers from Nairobi CBD.
I believe it was built with lovebirds in mind, as the indigenous trees and gently sloping grounds provide a constant cool breeze, ideal for setting the mood.
The tranquil setting is perfect for a cozy nature picnic while watching the monkeys forage for food, in short its just a perfect place for a date in Nairobi.
It also has plenty of gravel-tracked meandering paths where you can take long scenic walks with your special someone. Tickets are KSH 50 for adults and KSH 20 for children.
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2. Karura Forest
Karura Forest is a peaceful, romantic, and tranquil haven. As you walk beneath the canopies, the privacy and calmness is absolutely refreshing.
The harmonious chimes of the birds will make you feel as if they are part of your romantic story. All you need to do is bring your walking shoes, some snacks, and a hundred Kenyan shillings for the entrance fee.
There are more than 30 kilometers of hiking and cycling trails here, and you can rent a bike for Kshs 500 for a two-hour cycling adventure. The main entrance is on Limuru Rd., directly across from the Belgian Embassy.
3.   Uhuru Park
Uhuru Park is a great chill-out spot in the CBD where you can forget all the rules of dating conventions. You can walk, better yet, run together to the top of the hill and take in the splendor of the city. Don’t hesitate to take selfies and capture your beautiful moments.
It is advisable to go there on non-holidays or weekends due to the high number of people that frequent the park during these days. Park access charges are Ksh 100 for kids and Ksh 200 for adults.
4.   Paradise Lost
The 54-acre coffee farm on the outskirts of Kiambu town is a 10-minute drive from Nairobi. Come share special moments with your loved one by the waterfall and caves while taking selfies for memories sake.
The main entrance fee costs Kshs 400, with an additional Kshs 300 each for boat trips, horseback rides, cave tours, and ziplines.
5.   Giraffe center
One of my favorite Nairobi attractions to take your girlfriend for a cheap date in Nairobi is the Giraffe Centre. It’s a perfect way to spend time with your significant other while feeding and even kissing the sweet giraffes at the Karen Giraffe Center, home to the endangered Rothschild Giraffe.
Directly across from the center’s entrance is a beautiful nature trail where you can relax and share laughs with your date. The charge is as low as Ksh 400.
6.   Nairobi Safari Walk
For only 300 bob per head, take your partner to see a sample of the country’s rich animal life, including the rare bongo, white rhino, albino zebra, as well as big cats, antelopes, and primates.
It is an excellent place to spend time together as you walk along a raised wooden boardwalk admiring the beautiful wildlife species.
7.   Ngong Hills
The famous Ngong hills is a favorite for hikers. It is also an ideal picnic site if you and your partner are looking to unwind. Set aside an afternoon to enjoy the unique experience of climbing these famous hills, and you’ll be treated to a spectacular view of Nairobi to the northeast.
You can start with a hike over the hills, have a packed lunch, and then stroll along the ridge for a spectacular view of the scenery. Visiting time is from 8.00 am to 4.00 pm, and entry tickets are Kshs 200 each.
8.   The Nairobi National Museum
I highly recommend a visit to the Nairobi Museum for a frugal date. It will not only be a fascinating experience, but it will also give you a deeper understanding of Kenya’s roots and diverse culture. Kenya’s rich heritage is celebrated at the museum, which is divided into four distinct themes: culture, nature, history, and contemporary art.
Other attractions within the compound include the Snake Park and Botanical Gardens and a State of the Art Auditorium that occasionally hosts concerts, film shows, and other events.
Dining and shopping facilities are also available in the commercial wing where you can get souvenirs at fair prices. Located on Museum Hill, get a Nairobi national museum & snake park package at Kshs 600 each.
9.   The Godown Arts Center
If you and your partner prefer art shows, plays, and concerts, then Godown Arts Center is a perfect venue for a date.
Here you get to experience the fusion of contemporary creative arts exhibitions, workshops, and open cultural nights in its rawest form.
Enjoy unique performances by your favorite local artists while getting lost in the moment with your partner. Don’t miss getting souvenirs together to mark your special moments.
10. Psycho 60 Escape Rooms
If you want a budget friendly date in Nairobi, Psycho 60 Escape Rooms is a realistic escape room experience located along Elgeyo Marakwet North Rd.
It’s a great entertainment spot for a date night, as you get to work with your partner to solve challenging puzzles, find clues, break codes, decrypt messages and find hidden objects using intuition and logical thinking to escape.
In 2025, the more exciting thing is how the rooms differ and how you should see a way out in 60 minutes. So both your creative skills and your teamwork will be required to achieve the ultimate mission. Tickets are available 800/= on weekdays and 1000/= every weekend.
September 13, 2021
“Only Yours,” Hamisa Mobetto Promises Rick Ross ‘Heaven’ In A Cheeky Chat
Tanzanian model Hamisa Mobetto who is also Diamond Platnumz’s baby mama seems to be developing some soft spot for the American rapper Rick Ross. This is based on their recent engagements on social media.
Hamisa has been openly flirting with with the rapper, the head of Maybach Music Group (MMG), giving netizens the feeling that she might be thinking of trying another relationship, this time outside Africa. It has been a trend lately that whenever Hamisa posts something on her Instagram page, Rick is always on standby to comment.
Sweet enough, all these have been happening publicly before the eyes of everyone. In her latest update, their choice of words even fueled further the rumours that they might be working on something, relationship.
Hamisa posted some beautiful pictures of while on her way from her vocation in Zanzibar. She then captioned the pictures;
“Heavy on the who God bless no man can curse.”
Rick Ross then commented on Hamisa’s post, hinting that she belongs to him.
He commented “Mine”, a comment that Hamisa confirmed, stating, “Only Yours!”
Some of the Hamisa’s followers, especially the Tanzanians who enjoyed this engagement started calling Rick Rose their in law. The first week of June, a similar engagement between the two was witnessed.
It was when Hamisa posted a photo of herself standing next to a Range Rover. She captioned the picture;
”I’m not trying to be in a relationship. I’m trying to be in a Range Rover.”
In the comment section, Rick Rose asked Hamisa if she could be willing to move to the US. Without hesitation, she replied, “All my bags are packed, am ready!”
These are just some of the few signs they have thrown to the public. Maybe a lot more is happening in their inbox. Should that be the case, we are sure to get the truth soon.
June 12, 2021