MUST READ: How Do I Know Am Dating A Narcissist? 6 Signs Your Partner Is A Narcissist!

A person who takes too many selfies, seems to only talk about themselves when you are together, and interrupts you constantly when you are speaking could be a narcissist.

Do they only talk about themselves? Are they always taking selfies when you’re supposed to be hanging out? Do they constantly interrupt you? You might be dating a narcissist.

A narcissist is described as a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. Narcissists can be incredibly harmful people to have relationships with. I know at this point you are asking yourself questions like, “Is it bad for someone to have self-admiration?” No its not, unless they are narcissists! How can you know if someone in your life is a narcissist?

I’m not a psychologist, I’m just a blogger, but I have studied this one a little bit simply because I needed to, because of some of my own encounters with people who exhibit some antisocial behaviors. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is so toxic and most people hardly accept to leave such relationships if they are the ones affected. It gets toxic and instead of walking out, they stay and think that the toxicity is love. It’s more psychological torture which is worse than physical torture.

So a narcissist fundamentally is a person who is just extremely self-centered, but there are certain traits that betray their self-centeredness. They have just an extreme, kind of a grandiose view of their own self-importance, they are the center of the universe. Narcissists have enough esteem for themselves and everyone around them. Most people with this disorder aren’t always aware they have it.

Now you won’t pick that out necessarily right from the start in the classic narcissist, because if a narcissist comes across as very self-centered, that’s going to hurt them having any chance of bringing anybody into their circle and to have relationships. And so they often come across as very charming individuals and maybe even caring individuals, intelligent, but beneath the surface, once you get to know them, you realize that they think that they’re really, really, really important.

And they’ll be sending you clues to let you know that before too long. And if you keep listening to them they’ll be just outright telling you how you can’t get on without them, because they’re just so important. And so they’re living in a bit of a fantasy world where everybody else is expendable, except for them.

Here are signs that you are dating a narcissist:

• All about me, me, me!

This you can’t miss. They will cut you short in conversation and constantly deflect back to them. The conversation always revolves around how great they are in a much exaggerated manner. Like “I can’t believe how successful I am, I worked so hard and now look at me.” It’s all about ‘floss’ mode with narcissists. You must see what they have and how great they are doing! Plus, they sometimes put down others in the process to exaggerate their real or perceived grandiose achievements.

• The world owes me this!

They expect preferential treatment when there is no need for it. They will be upset at the slightest aversion from special attention or treatment. When you are on a date, for example, watch how they treat the waiters or support staff. They are more likely to bark orders at them or be extremely rude and condescending to them.

• I want you…but I don’t want you

You will always experience a sense of withdrawal or apprehension when you push for a commitment from a narcissist. It will always be a push to remain in the status quo – ‘this works just fine, why label it or make it official?’ They may say or insinuate something deeper, but never actually commit to it. Anything that pins them down and forces them to compromise what they believe is their convenience is unthinkable.

• No one’s better than me, including you

No one can ever be better, or more talented, or earn more, or get more recognition in the eyes and world of a narcissist. It’s them or nothing! If they get into a situation where they may be the less talented or less superior one, they will do anything they can to tear the other person down. They may mock appearance, make passive-aggressive jokes, rudely comment about competence or just tear people down by ridiculing them. Sound familiar?

• I’ll hurt you, but I’ll be charming about it

It may sound bizarre because there is nothing wrong with being charming; it is an inherently good trait to have. But remember that narcissists have an end game: to have what they want at any cost, which means you. You are the cost. They will be charming and romantic when they need to be. Very flirtatious, lots of compliments, expensive dates, dinners and grand gestures, just to get what they want out of you.

• You’re a toy in my hand…

Narcissists see their partners as tools. Everything they do which, on the surface seems kind and considerate, is an agenda to demonstrate their illusions of grandeur. Sometimes, making sure you join him at his hang out with his boys is to make them jealous of his new girl/boyfriend – not because he wanted to spend quality time with you. Or maybe, when he convinces you to move in together, you pay all the bills and cater to his every need. And when you raise it? The violent reaction will be more than enough to keep you silent.

And unfortunately,

Narcissists aren’t quick to learn. When they do fall, it’s everyone else’s fault, it’s not their fault, and they’re just purely the victim. And if you were involved in any way, well, you’re the problem. And people who are soft hearted and empathetic, sometimes take the blame themselves because the narcissist is able to successfully convince them that, “You’re the whole problem here.”