Must Read: Things Women Do Subconsciously That Make Men Cheat

Man or woman, gay or straight—anyone can cheat. But why?

There are many reasons why people cheat in a relationship. Individuals sometimes cheat on their significant other due to the fact that they aren’t truly happy in the relationship. This can sometimes mean that they aren’t really in love and are looking for a way out. Let me start by acknowledging the fact that both men and women cheat, but today, our focus is entirely on men!

Do men know that cheating betrays their partner’s trust and breaks the promise of maintaining emotional and sexual exclusivity with them? If you ask what percentage of men cheat and what percentage of women cheat, it’s not surprising that men are 7 percent more likely to cheat than women are. And if you ask me, I’d say that statistics prove that men cheat more than women do, but it doesn’t mean that all men cheat. In as much as we want to blame the men for cheating, women play a part too.

Women are extremely sensitive beings and it’s emotionally traumatic when men cheat on them. They find themselves asking these questions, “Why did this happen?” “Why did he cheat?” “Where did I go wrong for him to cheat?” “Am I not enough?”

Well, I have some answers for you! Quite blaming yourself!

Men cheat because of lack of maturity.

Males, in general, will have a myriad of reasons as to why they engage in secret affairs. In my own perspective, I have noticed a common theme of emotional immaturity with those that act on the emotional and physical aspects of cheating.

Lacking the maturity to invest the time, commitment, and energy to work through core issues within their relationship is why men cheat, well, at least some of them.

Come to ask yourself, is your relationship really worth gambling?

Men cheat when they are made to feel inadequate.

Speaking from an African context, masculinity complex will always drive our men.

Men who cheat repeatedly are those who are repeatedly made to feel like they are less than, they seek to find someone that makes them feel like a priority.

In essence, they try to feel the void that their partner is not occupying. They seek attention outside the relationship because they feel inadequate, forgetting that it is a prominent sign of an emerging betrayal.

Men feel ashamed about their desire for pleasure thus cheating.

In as much as we don’t want to talk about it, sex does keep a man. And not just any sex, good sex. Remember how I told you ladies earlier that you play a part in the cheating? Let’s talk about how you get lazy in bed and don’t give out sex whenever and wherever he wants it. He wants it, he can’t force you to give it up, so why not find somewhere to get it?

I know that sounds ironic and like a cart-horse dilemma since many people become ashamed after getting caught cheating. But cheating behaviors are very often triggered by what they lack in the relationship.

Men cheat because they choose to.

Just like we say a man cannot be stolen, neither can he be made or forced to lust on other women. It is a choice they make with a clear conscience. There is no justified explanation as to why men cheat

Men cheat because they are selfish.

On the surface, there are many reasons why men cheat.

Such as: “Grass is greener,” feeling desired, the thrill of the conquest, feeling trapped, unhappiness, etc. Underneath all those reasons and others, it is pretty simple, selfishness.

The selfishness that trumps commitment, the integrity of character and honoring another above self.