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Girls talk, everyone knows that. Unlike men, girls tend to share about everything that is going on in their lives with their friends. This is the reason why some chronic diseases like high blood pressure. depression and so many more are hardly associated with women. Like i like to say, therapy is way cheaper than ice cream, because talking to your friends is the only free therapy you are gonna get in this capitalist world we are living in today.

In 2025, would you rather spend thousands of your hard earned money visiting a completely stranger in the name of a therapist or would you rather talk to your girls over a lunch date?

As much as talking helps, do you think girls tend to overshare sometimes? With girl gangs, casual talks when hanging out does not always have to be about the weather, it drifts so fast to sexual encounters. Normally, girl talk is always 50% boys, 40% shopping and trendy fashion in the streets. and 10% other stuff. In my opinion, i don’t think talking about your sexual encounters to your girls is over sharing, to some point, it does feel like over sharing.

Don’t expect me to tell you how good in bed my man is, girls can be vultures! I wouldn’t surprised if one or two decide to get the experience from the horses’ mouth, like hey! You can’t be happy alone, we wanna experience this happiness too!

Speaking from experience and being a member of a girl gang, talking about sex life has been of help. Everyone has had their own different sexual experience, and finding out that you are not in this alone gives you a sense of belonging.

Also, learning about other new sexual encounters helps a lot especially when you finally meet the encounter: trust me, you wouldn’t freak out because hey! Yo already know this was an option too.

I used to brag to my friends about never having to encounter a one minute guy (you get it? If you don’t get it, forget about it). Them sharing their experiences helped because if you have a high sex libido, trust me, you don’t wanna meet this type of guy.

When i finally met this guy, well, i was not very surprised because i already knew i had a risk of having this encounter, and i think i managed the situation well thanks to my friends’ sex life experiences talk (if blocking him and changing the route counts).

Also, sharing about your sex life helps you know where you are going wrong, you don’t have to visit your gynecologist when you have girls who can give you a girl talk! It helps you bond, strengthens your relationship and builds trust.

What’s better than your girls teaching you more about bedroom affairs and new sexual positions you might want to try?

You should be supportive of your friends and you might wank to risk the broach of listening to their sexual encounters and helping them where you can.

While people enjoy talking freely about their sex lives, in some cases, it might be uncomfortable. Extroverts have been known to enjoy talking about their sex lives because it energizes them and helps them socialize.

As for introverts, this might be a big problem and to them, considered oversharing (that is why when you go out partying and start sharing about your life experiences , not everyone will be welcoming and friendly, leave alone open to listening to you).

Another instance where girl talk can be oversharing is when a party is complaining about their sex life- low sex libido, the man cannot last more than a minute when having sex, or he just generally doesn’t know what he is doing when it comes to sex. Now this is airing your dirty in public.

If this is the same man you are planning to build a future with, then you might want your friends to respect this man. Telling them the down side to your sexual life will not just bring the little respect they had for him down, but also, they will not consider him man enough.

This is a discussion you need to have with your partner rather than “releasing” it to your friend who would probably laugh behind your back. In my opinion, sharing your sex life is only applicable if it is your ex or a one night stand you are talking about, not your current partner (unless you are planning on dumping him) or a future husband!

The bottom line is, it is up to you to decide what you want to tell your friends about. If you feel like talking about your sex life is okay, then so be it.

Just because you like over sharing about your sex life only means you are none judgmental about sex and you are comfortable with your sexual identity and the sexual behavior of others.

When asked the question “can money buy happiness?” many will hesitate before saying yes. Indeed, money has evolved into being something very valuable especially within the contemporary society. I mean, who doesn’t want to get rich? I want to be rich and I believe your feelings and mine regarding money are mutual. Recent studies have found a correlation between money and happiness. However, that is not all, a substantive body of research has also confirmed that money can raise the level of happiness to a certain point. Therefore, it is appropriate to not that even though money can buy happiness, it is appropriate to note that money cannot buy money entirely but only to a certain point.

When a person lands a deal worth a ton of money, they get excited and happiness is the outcome. Also, when your salary is raised, a smile is always expected meaning money has a direct correlation with happiness. However, concluding that money can buy happiness will be a subjective form of thinking and conclusion. This is a form of hasty generalization that many people have fallen victims. What many people fail to incorporate in their thinking is that money raises standards and with higher standards comes new and more responsibilities. Due to these additional responsibilities, money will always not be enough and that is why richest people are the ones waking up in the wee hours of the morning to look for more money.

Recently, the US Congress voted to pass the bill on stimulus. In March this year, the president, Joe Biden signed a stimulus package in an effort to mitigate the fallout from the COVID-19 and help the economy grow. According to an article by financial times, the stimulus package includes a new round of means tested direct payments of up to $1,400 for American adults, a weekly top up to $300 in federal unemployment benefits and $350 billion to help the state and local government and expanding tax credits for children.

Even though the bill passed, it is worth noting that it narrowly passed with 220 votes to 211. This denotes the fact that the debate on whether money can buy happiness is 50/50. It is entirely certain that the money is very helpful especially during the time of crisis. However, the republicans who voted against the bill were not entirely wrong considering the fact that the stimulus package can have long-term consequences to the economy due to the high spending.

Summing up, it is apparent that money is good as it eliminates or rather reduces a lot of problems. However, money is not the only source of happiness. Moreover, there are some things that are above money for instance chronic diseases, family, true friendship among others. Such things, cannot be bought with money but they also have significant impact to happiness.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the phrase “Age is just but a number.” I beg to differ though some might curse me for this.

This is not to say that when the age gap is too big, two people cannot settle for a beautiful relationship.

At first, it might seem okay but as time goes, you’ll realize that there are drastic changes in your lifestyles and this is when the glow in your relationship will start dimming.

It will be ugly, trust me. It is even worse when you are an extrovert, I can spare introverts on this.

For extroverts, you might still have warm blood for travelling and going out most of the time but your partner will not. It will be ugly, I repeat.

According Seth Meyers, Ph.D., a psychologist and the author of Overcome Relationship Repetition Syndrome and Find the Love You Deserve, age difference matters. Meyers says that an age gap bigger than ten years often has certain issues which are different keeping in mind that all relationships have issues.

In regard to big age differences, Rachel Sussman, a profound licensed marriage and family therapist based in New York once stated “You can see varied cultural references, disapproval from family and friends, and perhaps community disapproval, as well,” 

She added,

 “It might be hard to relate to each other’s peer groups too.”

Therefore, when you want to date someone older by more than 10 years, ensure that you know exactly what you want from them. Also, keep in mind that changes are inevitable and you are prepared to handle them.

I fear being left because I have less. I’m certain that I am not alone. As men, we love control and enjoy masculinity privilege’s but money has somehow come to rip all of that away.

In the past, a man was loved because of the intensity of his masculinity, the strength that he has or how brave he was. However, in the current society men are loved by what they have; particularly the weight of their bank accounts. Some of you might argue that in the past men with wealth always married many women compared to those who were poor but what ought to be considered is that men with wealth married many women because they had ability to cater for all their needs.

Why women love men with money

In the 21st century, this are not the same. Men with wealth rarely marry many women but only one and so are the less fortunate people. So why do women love men with money?

The answer to this question is a mystery though it seems simple, who doesn’t love money? I have seen many girls preferring older men not because of love but the money they have. From the beginning of time, women are known to be attracted to men who can protect them. however, in the past projection was not only in terms of finance but even physical protection.

What is revenge cheating? This is the first question that pops up in our mind when you came across this piece. Is what am doing called revenge cheating? Well, let me shine some light on that. Revenge cheating also known us retaliatory infidelity is one of the ways to deal with an unfaithful partner and this is why it’s worth considering. Psychologists will give you theories about revenge cheating: well am not one, i will tell you that revenge cheating happens when one party who was ‘supposedly‘ in a romantic relationship, cheats and as we all know, hitting back is always the answer; thus revenge cheating.

They say revenge is a dish best served cold, and when a man decides to cheat on you, that’s the only option. But women don’t often know how to get back at a cheating partner without getting hurt in the process. If your man is cheating on you and you can’t find the best revenge dish to serve him, worry no more! Here is a list of your comeback:

• Befriend his ‘Mpango wa Kando‘

No one runs mouth like a ‘mpango wa kando‘, especially when she is drunk in love with your man. She will give up all their meeting points and daily activities. In befriending her, its not just the information you will get, this also increases the probability of your man dumping her. Men don’t like being exposed! Cheating is fun when its a secret, but when its all out, trust me, your man will want to quite! So don’t start a raging war with his side chicq, make her your friend.

• Share his dirty linen everywhere

He cheated, let the cat out of the basket! This is the worst comeback you can use, especially when you’re completely done with him and the relationship. Don’t expect him to forgive you for airing his dirty linen, so if you are having second thoughts about the relationship, DON’T use this revenge plot!

• Date one of his friends

Ever heard of the famous saying “Tit for Tat is a fair game”? Well, it really is a fair one, if he cheats, cheat back! And poke where it hurts the most: Date one of his friends. Wake up the sleeping bear in him and let him have a taste of his own medicine,

• Break his car’s windscreen

We all know that your heart cannot be compared or measured to his car’s windscreen, your heart is priceless! So he broke something fragile you own, get that bat and break something fragile he owns too. Make him feel the pain by digging into the deep depths of his pockets, and don’t forget to crash his side mirrors too, it comes with the package.

• Use the little blue pill

He has shown you that clearly, he doesn’t know how to keep his pants up, teach him a lesson. Be ware men! She will serve you the little blue pill and ensure you have a 24/7 erection. What better way than showing him that experience is the best teacher?

• Play the pregnant card

This card is only applicable if you are afraid of losing him to the other woman. Most men would like to refer to it as the ‘desperate card‘. I know mapenzi ya watu wawili hufai kuingilia, so if you love him and doesn’t wanna loose him, play this card, and get yourself pregnant if you have to to conceal the secret, and make sure you follow Ctone Media for more information about faking a pregnancy and the best ways to come clean without being caught!

• The silent treatment

They say words are the strongest weapon you own, but they forgot to say silence is an even stronger weapon. Talking will expose your plans, pains and desires, but the silent treatment will conceal everything. Truly, a silent killer is worse than a murderer. Silent treatment is like poison, it will kill him slowly but in the most painful way you can think of.

• Walk away

Every woman is different in their own way, i have supported the ‘drama queens’ and ‘silent murderers’. If you are not into causing drama, just walk away. They say men are like wild animals, all you have to do is find your beast and tame it. If you can’t, then you know it was never meant to be.

She was powerful not because she wasn’t scared, but because she went on so strongly without despite the fear.

We are living in a gender equal world today. Women have fought hard to be recognized as equals to men. Phrases like, ‘what a man can do a woman can do better’ have evolved. We have seen women leaders from our corporate societies to presidents. Women are doing masculine jobs like masonry, plumbing, building and construction, to being in seats which were earlier considered men seats like Chief Operations Officers in corporate, Principals and Head Masters in Schools, Chief Executive Officers in organizations, Presidents in States and so much more.

 Likewise, just like women can do what men can do better, men have also proved that they can do what women can do even better. We see men in the Beauty and Cosmetology industry thriving, these five star hotels with the best chefs being men, who said men cannot be patrons in boarding schools? The best cleaning companies in town are owned by men. It is clear we are living in a modern world where you can be anything you dream of, but as much as men have accepted the fact that women have evolved, have they also accepted the fact that a woman making more money than they do is not a deal breaker?

We must talk about the number of women bread winners rising in the society today. Men feet the most anxious when they are the sole breadwinner in the family, and the least stressed when their women partners are contributing 40% to the household income. But as women make more money past that point, men become “increasingly uncomfortable” and stressed.

The reason? Traditional social gender norms suggest that men should be the breadwinners in relationships.

Even though the tides are turning, many individuals adhere to the deep-rooted unconscious belief that men must be able to provide financially to be a “proper” provider for their family.

If you are not fulfilling that expectation, it has the potential to damage your self-esteem and self-worth. Money adds a layer of complexity to men, because it’s a stressful topic that’s riddled with emotion, especially within the context of a relationship.

When women are the breadwinners, couples have a hard time discussing any confusing emotions that may arise. It’s deeply unsettling for some couples, especially if they’ve been raised and conditioned to believe men ‘should’ dutifully make more than their wives.

The only way to get through this pain point is to talk about it with your partner. Allow yourselves to get vulnerable. Do not let the masculinity complex crown your judgement and destroy your relationship.

There are, however, practical strategies that can be helpful for couples grappling with this imbalance.

Finding ways to level the financial playing field so that each person can feel financially valuable in the relationship (regardless of what they earn) is key. The husband can contribute to things like college funds or vacations, for example, if the wife is covering most daily costs.

Or if your male spouse is having a hard time defining his role as a ‘provider,’ then have a discussion around some major aspects of your life together that he can own and manage, like caring for the kids or cooking. Because most researches shows that when women make more money, they also take on more household responsibilities.

Our society likes women to be smart and beautiful but also quiet and appeasing. When a woman is opinionated or more traditionally “successful,” it can be threatening to her male partner. But do you think it should be so? Should men feel intimidated when the woman is making more?