Category: Life Lessons

Many people try to live by the motto of ‘live without regret’ but it is almost inevitable that someone will regret at least something from their past. In some cases, that regret can make it very difficult to keep moving forward with their life. They dwell on the past and suffer the regret daily.

In order to live a life of progress and growth one must learn to forgive one’s self and look towards the future rather than be consumed by regrets of the past. By not spending as much time thinking about material objects we’re freed up to think about, and act on the more substantial, meaningful parts of life. This is the perfect time to finally forgive yourself.

1. Places you never went

Many people neglected opportunities to travel while they were financially and physically able. It’s time to get off your duff and see what’s out there. Even on a budget there are many fascinating and often free things to explore in your community, in your state, or across the seas. Just because you didn’t go before doesn’t mean you can’t get out there now.

2. Jobs you didn’t take                   

Consider that the job you regret not getting (or going for) might not have been right for you. If your gut instinct was to refuse the job at the time, or if too many things pointed to you not going after it the job at the time then trust that you made the best decision you could at the time. If you still have career regrets, now is the time to consider what you really want to do with your work life and find a way to get it done.

3. Money you wasted

Money regrets are often one of the biggest regrets anyone has throughout their lifetime. In order to move on from the mistakes you’ve made before, you have to make a commitment to not letting history repeat itself. Start today by getting your finances in order and on the right path. Complacency about money matters will only prolong your regret. Take the Get Out of Debt Pledge and get on track this very minute!

4. Time you wasted

Whether your regret wasting years of your life or just the few hours you could have been more productive, you can stop the insanity and get serious about how you spend your time. There are a lot of distractions out there that can cause you to procrastinate.

Start limiting your TV time, your computer time, and the other elements of your life that are guaranteed time wasters and instead seize the day every day. (You might like this post: Dramatically Increase the Quality of Your Life)

5. Friends you hurt

Hurting people you love can be devastating especially if you can’t admit your role in the situation. If it is too late to make up with the person you hurt, make a commitment to practicing more kindness in your life to prevent another hurtful situation. Learn to walk away from the drama that is so prevalent in society today. We all know, life is too short.

6. Friendships lost

It can be difficult to lose your best friend over the years. People grow and change and may longer be the right fit into each other’s lives. If you lost a friendship that you regret, try reaching out to see what happens. If the other person does not respond, respect that. Work on being a better friend to those still in your life.

7. Love you lost

Love is often one regret people find it impossible to get over. Sadly, many people end up with additional regrets while mourning the loss of a past love (infidelity, lies). You must be willing to accept the life you have created for yourself and realize what you do have to be grateful for every day. If the road to rekindling a relationship are free and clear, don’t let fear or regret hold you back. Take the risk and see where love can take you.

8. Opportunities you missed

They say opportunity only knocks once so if you missed answering the door to an opportunity in the past, ask yourself what is stopping you from creating newer, better opportunities. Figure out why it is you passed up the chance the first time around and be honest with yourself.

Get over past regrets by searching for the next opportunity and going after it full force.

9. Family discord

Part of what makes up a family is the process of fighting and then forgiving. In some families the fighting seems unforgivable and many live years under the weight of a grudge. If you regret a long-lasting family squabble, be the first to make amends. Be prepared for what may result – good or bad. Rest easier knowing you did what you could to correct your mistakes. It’s sad to see or hear about families who get torn apart by seemingly stupid arguments. Don’t let your ego stand in the way.

10. Incomplete education

If you dropped out of school in the past, you may regret what you’ve missed out on by lacking the education you wanted. The good news is that in this day and age there are so many new ways to get educated, you can do better. Online courses, community colleges, and trade schools are much more accessible than in previous years. Contact the admissions office of the school you’ve been considering and get started on creating a better life for yourself.

11. Parenting mistakes

If you are a parent, there is likely at least one thing you regret about how you handled your kids. You may have one big regret (your child was seriously hurt when you weren’t paying attention) or a series of daily regrets (you lost your patience again!). Whatever the regret, know that no parent is perfect. Your family will love you for who you are. Get recommitted to spending quality time with them, listening actively, and doing what you have to in order to keep your family safe, healthy, and happy.

There is nothing worse than waking up and realizing you sent a drunk text that you shouldn’t have. The sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach when you can tell the text has been read, but not responded to, is enough to make you want to start drinking all over again. Your thoughts start racing and palms sweating, and you beg the universe that you are still deep in your intoxication-induced sleep and the whole thing is just a dream. Unfortunately, it almost never is.

In any drunk texting situation (assuming the night didn’t end with sex, a serious talk, or both) there are really only a few things you can do to recover. In college, I picked up the habit of literally putting my phone in the freezer when I didn’t want to look at it — when I had somehow embarrassed myself with an outgoing text and didn’t feel like dealing with the aftermath. It was a great ploy for avoiding reality for a little (and a great excuse to periodically take bites from a pint of Ben and Jerry’s while “checking my texts”), but not exactly the best or most mature way to deal with the problem at hand.

I know, I know; waking up to an outgoing drunk text makes you want to throw your phone across the room (I’ve actually done this, and broken it), hide your head under a pillow and pretend it never happened. While that can certainly help you feel better in the moment, there are a few alternate ways to handle the situation that will ultimately help you recover in the long run.

1. Acknowledge That You Were Drunk Texting, And Now You’re Embarrassed

First things first: You have to own up to what you’ve done. In fairness, anyone who receives a text after 2 a.m. with their name misspelled, a winky face or the phrase “whererrrrrru” (all one word, always) probably knows that it was sent by someone who was drunk and trying to get into their pants. Make a joke (something along the lines of “Woah! Looks like drunk me really wanted to see you last night, huh?”) to diffuse the awkwardness. Personally, I’m huge fan of sending that cute little monkey emoji with its hands over its eyes as a message that says, “I’m embarrassed, I’m sorry, and I’m hoping you’ll find this adorable and endearing and that we can laugh it off.” It almost always works.

2. Apologize

Genuine apologies are only necessary in certain drunk texting situations — most of the time, your embarrassment is penance enough.

But if you’ve texted someone who you know will take the messages the wrong way (like an ex whose heart you’ve recently broken), you’ve got to suck it up and apologize. Or if you’ve sent an angry or mean text, you need let the recipient know you’re sorry, especially if you said things that sober you didn’t mean. If you’ve really done something unforgivable, offer to talk it through in person (but be wary of this when it involves an ex) and do what you can to fix the situation.

3. Lie

This almost never works, but if you’ve really screwed yourself (for example incessantly texting new love interest to come over and lick your face),

I say deny ‘til you die‘. Pretend your friend took your phone, that you acted on a dare, or that you lost your phone in a cab — anything to relinquish you of responsibility. If you can actually pull this off, you’ve officially won at life.

4. Ignore The Situation Entirely

I know I said this wasn’t the “mature” way to deal with things, and once you’ve sent a drunk text you can never truly take it back, but if you’ve really dug yourself into a hole and following up will only make things worse, delete the conversation, pretend it never happened, and move on with your life.

 Delete their number, too (really delete it, not just the secret “fake delete” thing you can do on an iPhone) to avoid it happening again, then take yourself out to brunch. You’re bound to be feeling pretty traumatized (and probably pretty hungover, too) and deserve a pick-me-up in the form of banana chocolate chip pancakes.

Aristotle is credited with saying these 15 famous words. And for most of my life…I didn’t believe him: The importance of having a routine.

Having no routine or structure is so much more draining mentally, physically, and emotionally than any routine could ever be!

By not doing the things I knew would make me better habits like exercising, meditating, and creating gratitude lists I deprived my body and mind of the energy that these types of positive activities create. I felt tired; inside and out. And to make matters worse, my dreams and goals were just slipping away.

Why Create a Routine?

Establishing a positive daily routine is both a self-investment and a way to do your best for the rest of the world.

It also provides additional benefits, such as giving you structure, building forward-moving habits, and creating momentum that will carry you on the days when you feel like you don’t have the strength to carry yourself.

Following a daily routine can help you establish priorities, limit procrastination, keep track of goals, and even make you healthier.

Here are some of the things you can do in your daily routine to reach higher mental levels (i.e. more brain power and clarity!):

1: Optimize Your Mind

A successful daily routine helps you achieve laser-like focus from the moment you wake up in the morning…to the time you close your eyes and drift off to dreamland at night. Here are some ways to get it:

> Get positive:

Start your day with a mantra. When you develop a positive attitude, you will start feeling better about yourself.

You will treat yourself with more respect and love, and this in turn will boost your confidence levels and inner strength. You will take on new challenges and come out of your self-limiting beliefs.

> Be proactive:

Don’t check your email first! Being proactive allows you to dictate your particular position and supplies a sense of control over whatever situation you may be facing.

Essentially, your pro activity will enable you to be more prepared. When you are proactive you are able to think and act ahead before your circumstances change.

> Mentally prepare:

Visualize your success. Mental preparation allows the athlete to manage his stress, decrease fears “the athlete warmed up mentally and physically will be more efficient, from the beginning of the effort.”

> Read a book (Even if it’s just a page).

Reading is good for you because it improves your focus, memory, empathy, and communication skills. It can reduce stress, improve your mental health, and help you live longer. Reading also allows you to learn new things to help you succeed in your work and relationships.

> Make yourself accountable:

Enlist a partner or mentor. Holding yourself accountable is important because it allows you to prioritize your goals and better understand the reasons you have them. You can use accountability strategies to motivate yourself and learn more about your work process.

> Make a daily to-do-list.

One of the most important reasons you should use a to do list is that it will help you stay organised. When you write all your tasks in a list, they seem more manageable. When you’ve got a clear outline of the tasks you’ve got to do and those you’ve completed, it helps you stay focused.

> Give yourself breaks through the day.  

Breaks can reduce or prevent stress, help to maintain performance throughout the day and reduce the need for a long recovery at the end of the day. Additionally, a relaxing break can help to reset your mood, thereby promoting positive well-being and reducing stress

2. Optimize Your Body

Being your best also requires that you take care of your body and are firing on all cylinders! Here are a few things you can add to your daily routine to do just that…

> Breath:

Practice deep breathing. Breathing exercises can help you relax, because they make your body feel like it does when you are already relaxed. Deep breathing is one of the best ways to lower stress in the body. This is because when you breathe deeply, it sends a message to your brain to calm down and relax.

> Eat ‘productive’ foods.

Eating Well Boosts Creativity and Happiness at Work. For example, it’s been shown that the more portions of fruit and vegetables eaten per day, the happier, more engaged, and more creative people will be at work.

> Drink more water:

9-13 cups a day. Getting enough water every day is important for your health. Drinking water can prevent dehydration, a condition that can cause unclear thinking, result in mood change, cause your body to overheat, and lead to constipation and kidney stones. Water helps your body: Keep a normal temperature.

> Get out of your chair often.

Sitting or lying down for too long increases your risk of chronic health problems, such as heart disease, diabetes and some cancers. Too much sitting can also be bad for your mental health. Being active is not as hard as you think.

> Exercise often:

MOVE! Physical activity or exercise can improve your health and reduce the risk of developing several diseases like type 2 diabetes, cancer and cardiovascular disease. Physical activity and exercise can have immediate and long-term health benefits. Most importantly, regular activity can improve your quality of life.

3. Questions To Yourself

Self-questioning is an effective meta-cognitive strategy as it encourages students to think more deeply about the material they are studying. This strategy helps It is essential to your happiness, important for your growth, required for a healthy mind, inspires others to ask why, encourages good, honest relationships, keeps you young, makes other people happy and It could make a difference to the world.

> Am i doing what i love?

> What is the worst that could happen?

What is online writing?

Online writing entails writing articles like blog posts content creation on the internet from wherever the writer is in the world. Due to an increase in content creation on the internet, this field of online writing has lured so many people across the globe to join with an intrigued interest in making a living through writing. For instance here in Kenya, countless folks have already joined this premise and eventually pursue it full time.

I will therefore discuss below some of the benefits that online writing has to those people who are willing to pursue it in 2025.

Tractability of work-This enables the writer to work from wherever he/she is with just a computer, phone, or tablet with an internet connection. You can decide to do the work anytime you want and set a limit when you need to take a break. This helps the writer to have more free time which can help him/her to concentrate on other projects that are diverse from writing. It also alleviates the pressure of working for long hours as you can set the limit of the amount of work that you are willing to take and deliver on time.

No grind limit–There are countless projects of articles from different fields that you can choose from. This helps the writer to work as much as he/she wants but making sure the work is neat and delivered on time to their clients. There are also so many sites that offer writing services and offer an advantage to the writer since there are numerous sites that he/she can join if one site has a deficit in the workflow.

Lower admittance hurdle–Anyone with skills in writing and often delivers every obligation offered to him/her on the time it is convenient to thrive in this industry. Most of the writing sites don’t request an academic qualification as you just need to demonstrate your outstanding skills in writing through an entrance exam and if you can be approved. Some sites require an applicant to show a certificate of academic qualification but the major sake is just to know the applicant possesses the right knowledge and if can therefore deliver flawless work.

The knack to learn–With the vast projects to work from a writer can s much knowledge as they are different projects to choose from. It provides a writer with a choice to choose projects that are fascinating and which they intend to consistently keep on working from. This helps the writer to gain so much knowledge that they could not have discovered.

Interact with different people–Most of the online writing sites have discussion forums where the members interact to share their ideas. These benefits members involved so much as it allows them to learn from people In different locations who have specialized knowledge and experience in the diverse fields of their study.

Mitigate transportation cost–Since you can work from wherever you are then this helps a writer to cut out expenses of transportation. You don’t have to commute to and from work. It saves you so much time as it adds extra hours to your day which could have been dissipated during commute and this subsequently increases your productivity which ultimately makes your salary surge.

Freedom to set when to start working–It enables you to set your daily working hours since you don’t have to wake up early to commute. You can decide to work when you want any time of the day as long as you have an internet connection and a self-drive to stimulate yourself to execute from all the available projects that you find interesting to work on. These are some of my brief descriptions of the benefits of online writing. I hope you have found it fascinating and I do look forward to your favorable responses. Thank you.