Author: Clinton Wanjala

Squid Game Isn’t The Only Mind Blowing Show On Netflix; Here Are Other Five 2021 Must Watch Shows On Netflix
Hundreds of cash-strapped players accept a strange invitation to compete in children’s games. Inside, a tempting prize awaits — with deadly high stakes.
SQUID GAME
For the last three weeks, Squid Game has been the talk of town! Remember how Money Heist blew the internet and everyone’s mind? Well, triple the impact, that is how much Squid Game is performing. Just a month old but already, 90+ countries have the Korean- series in their headlines! Give credit where due, the series is indeed a bomber! So allow me to ask you this, have you watched this series yet?
We all agree that on a scale of one to ten, Squid Game is a 9! But unfortunately, the truth is it is not the only mind blowing show on Netflix. The hype everyone is giving this new series makes scrolling down on Netflix very hard. Don’t ask me how many times i have re-watched Squid Game, you’ll be amazed!
Here is a list of 2021 Must Watch Shows On Netflix: I liked them so hey, You’ll like them too.
Sweet Tooth

Produced in part by Robert Downey Jr. and based on the work of the same name by Jeff Lemire, Sweet Tooth is a fantastical dive into the post-apocalyptic world where “The Sick” has taken just about everyone out and the children being born? Half-animal, half-human. The “hybrids” are killed off in a mass exodus, but a few remain. This story follows Gus, aka Sweet Tooth, as he tries to make it to a safe haven in Colorado.
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The Chair

In Netflix’s college campus drama The Chair, Sandra Oh plays the newly appointed chair of the English department at a fictional Ivy League. As she struggles to modernize the English department amid budget cuts and academic culture wars, Dr. Ji-Yoon Kim has her own romance and family issues to contend with, too. One of Netflix’s best dramas in years, The Chair is a sharp, funny portrait of modern academia.
Lupin

The first French show to break into U.S. Netflix’s Top 10, Lupin is a thriller that follows suave gentleman burglar Assane Diop (Omar Sy) as he attempts to expose the corruption of an affluent Parisien philanthropist and in doing so, clear his late father’s good name. The good old-fashioned heist series is action-packed and suspenseful, but also smart and full of emotion. Seasons One and Two are streaming now.
Heist

A six-part documentary series, Heist tells the stories of three of the largest heists in American history—narrated by the people who actually carried them out. From a successful Vegas money heist to a bourbon distillery worker stealing booze and turning a profit himself, this one is a no brainer for true crime fans.
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Shadow & Bone

The fantasy book series comes to life on Netflix in this new adaptation, which won’t disappoint its die-hard fans. The Grishaverse is mostly done justice in Shadow & Bone, which follows orphan mapmaker Alina Starkov as she discovers her powers—which create for her great allies and enemies alike—in war-torn Ravka. The series is perhaps slightly confusing to follow for non-book fans, but hey, isn’t that what fantasy worlds are all about?
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October 7, 2021
How Do I Know Am Dating A Narcissist? 6 Signs Your Partner Is A Narcissist!
A person who takes too many selfies, seems to only talk about themselves when you are together, and interrupts you constantly when you are speaking could be a narcissist!
As we had to 2026, the goal should be creating an evironment that is healthy enough for you to prosper.
Having a narcisistic person around will not help that, in this article, we are going to explore six most common characters that will help you spot a narcisist even from a mile away.
Do they only talk about themselves? Are they always taking selfies when you’re supposed to be hanging out? Do they constantly interrupt you? You might be dating a narcissist.
A narcissist is described as a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. Narcissists can be incredibly harmful people to have relationships with.
I know at this point you are asking yourself questions like, “Is it bad for someone to have self-admiration?” No its not, unless they are narcissists! How can you know if someone in your life is a narcissist?
I’m not a psychologist, I’m just a blogger, but I have studied this one a little bit simply because I needed to, because of some of my own encounters with people who exhibit some antisocial behaviors.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is so toxic and most people hardly accept to leave such relationships if they are the ones affected.
It gets toxic and instead of walking out, they stay and think that the toxicity is part of their love story. It’s more psychological torture which is worse than physical torture.
So a narcissist fundamentally is a person who is just extremely self-centered, but there are certain traits that betray their self-centeredness. They have just an extreme, kind of a grandiose view of their own self-importance, they are the center of the universe. Narcissists have enough esteem for themselves and everyone around them. Most people with this disorder aren’t always aware they have it.
Now you won’t pick that out necessarily right from the start in the classic narcissist, because if a narcissist comes across as very self-centered, that’s going to hurt them having any chance of bringing anybody into their circle and to have relationships.
And so they often come across as very charming individuals and maybe even caring individuals, intelligent, but beneath the surface, once you get to know them, you realize that they think that they’re really, really, really important.
And they’ll be sending you clues to let you know that before too long. And if you keep listening to them they’ll be just outright telling you how you can’t get on without them, because they’re just so important. And so they’re living in a bit of a fantasy world where everybody else is expendable, except for them.
Here are signs that you are dating a narcissist:
- All about me, me, me!
This you can’t miss. They will cut you short in conversation and constantly deflect back to them. The conversation always revolves around how great they are in a much exaggerated manner. Like “I can’t believe how successful I am, I worked so hard and now look at me.”
It’s all about ‘floss’ mode with narcissists. You must see what they have and how great they are doing! Plus, they sometimes put down others in the process to exaggerate their real or perceived grandiose achievements.
- The world owes me this!
They expect preferential treatment when there is no need for it. They will be upset at the slightest aversion from special attention or treatment. When you are on a date, for example, watch how they treat the waiters or support staff. They are more likely to bark orders at them or be extremely rude and condescending to them.
- I want you…but I don’t want you
You will always experience a sense of withdrawal or apprehension when you push for a commitment from a narcissist. It will always be a push to remain in the status quo – ‘this works just fine, why label it or make it official?’ They may say or insinuate something deeper, but never actually commit to it. Anything that pins them down and forces them to compromise what they believe is their convenience is unthinkable.
- No one’s better than me, including you
Woman reflected in hand mirror
No one can ever be better, or more talented, or earn more, or get more recognition in the eyes and world of a narcissist. It’s them or nothing! If they get into a situation where they may be the less talented or less superior one, they will do anything they can to tear the other person down. They may mock appearance, make passive-aggressive jokes, rudely comment about competence or just tear people down by ridiculing them. Sound familiar?
- I’ll hurt you, but I’ll be charming about it
It may sound bizarre because there is nothing wrong with being charming; it is an inherently good trait to have. But remember that narcissists have an end game: to have what they want at any cost, which means you. You are the cost. They will be charming and romantic when they need to be. Very flirtatious, lots of compliments, expensive dates, dinners and grand gestures, just to get what they want out of you.
- You’re a toy in my hand…
Narcissists see their partners as tools. Everything they do which, on the surface seems kind and considerate, is an agenda to demonstrate their illusions of grandeur. Sometimes, making sure you join him at his hang out with his boys is to make them jealous of his new girl/boyfriend – not because he wanted to spend quality time with you. Or maybe, when he convinces you to move in together, you pay all the bills and cater to his every need. And when you raise it? The violent reaction will be more than enough to keep you silent.
Narcissistic painting by Paul Griffin
And unfortunately,
Narcissists aren’t quick to learn. When they do fall, it’s everyone else’s fault, it’s not their fault, and they’re just purely the victim. And if you were involved in any way, well, you’re the problem. And people who are soft hearted and empathetic, sometimes take the blame themselves because the narcissist is able to successfully convince them that, “You’re the whole problem here.”
October 6, 2021
Dealing With Miscarriage; A Unique Type of Loss
What if there is something I can do next time to tip the odds in my baby’s favour? Because right now, if someone with a medical qualification told me I had to spend my entire pregnancy hopping on one foot while only eating broccoli and whole meal bread, I’d do it if I thought it would raise my chances of giving birth to another healthy baby.
Catherine’s story
Miscarriage is like losing a loved one, which comes with a roller coaster of emotions ranging from sadness to despair. However, unlike other types of deaths, miscarriage can bring about a different type of anger.
Many find it difficult to talk about their loss because the impact of a miscarriage can be devastating. While every person will process loss differently, the range of emotions can include: grief, hopelessness. Sadness, guilt, anger, jealousy (of other parents), intense feelings of loneliness (especially if there are a lot of parents in your social circle)
Note that early pregnancy loss occurs in at least 10 percent of pregnancies. While knowing that many other parents experience miscarriage won’t erase your emotional pain, it may help you feel more comfortable sharing your story and help you manage the loss over the long term.
Different people deal with miscarriage differently. Some women can forget and pick up the pieces, but others blame themselves and question God, the devil, a few enemies and rural aunties with a ‘bad eye.’ Here is a list of Kenyan celebrities who have had miscarriages over the years and how they dealt with it:
Size 8 and DJ Mo.
Last December, Size 8 opened up about her miscarriage a week after speculations that she was pregnant.
“To be honest I’ve cried, I asked God so many questions. I was so angry. My faith in God has been greatly tested. Stories were in many blogs that I was pregnant but I never did really confirm it because it was a battle all the way. So I just wanted to go with the fight privately. But God decided the best lane for me and I lost the pregnancy juzi,” she posted on social media, adding that her family, friends and the church pals supported her recovery.
Size 8 advised all women who have gone through the same that God loves them and knows what’s best.
“To the women who are trusting God for a child, I have so much respect. I think you are stronger than 20 men and God will reward your faith in Him despite the challenges. I will continue to praise God in Jesus name for His faithfulness. Sitaacha kumsifu bwana.”
Unfortunately, the couple have had a second miscarriage just last week. May God see them through these trying times.
Nick Odhiambo and his girlfriend Lydia
Nick Odhiambo wrote on his social media pages: “The countdown to your birthday cut short…Sometimes life just throws you a curve ball!!!.. But it is what it is..lil’ J’lani R.I.P.. My son didn’t make it to see this beautiful world.”
Nana Owiti and King Kaka
Recently, Nana Owiti, the wife to musician King Kaka opened up about her first miscarriage in February 2014. King Kaka even sang about impending fatherhood in Twende, but the experience left Nana confused and angry.
“King had started calling me Mama Gweth long before we planned on having a baby as it was a unisex name. I told him there was no need of starting clinic mapema so we were good. First forward to the 1st of April 2014. I go to the washroom and get a blood stain,” she recalls, adding that it was at the hospital where the doctor did a scan, but the sonographer called another sonographer and she heard “Hakuna!” I asked ‘Hakuna nini?’ and the first sonographer said “hakuna heartbeat.”
Nana said she “died a little” and before leaving the hospital, they asked the medics whether there was anything they could do. The baby was seven weeks old.
Nana told The Nairobian that, at first she was in denial where “you feel robbed, you are angry at the world. It’s hard shaking off persistent sadness, pain, and bitterness but with my partner by my side throughout that journey of healing and accepting to be vulnerable and crying a lot, really did help me.”
Unhappy Couple On Bed
Immediately after miscarriage, you’ll want to take care of yourself while also allowing yourself to grieve. Below are just some of the steps you may want to take:
Allow yourself to express your emotions:
You may feel angry about not getting the chance to meet your baby outside of the womb. You may feel angry at the world over other pregnancies that make it to term. It’s important that you express all of your feelings. It’s normal to feel this way and a natural part of the grieving process. Don’t feel ashamed to grieve.
Rely on friends and loved ones for help:
As you grieve your miscarriage, you may not be able to stick with your normal schedule. Enlist the help of friends and loved ones to help you with chores, pet care, or family care. You also need them as a sounding board as you express your emotions.
Find a support group:
Miscarriage isn’t uncommon, so there are many in-person and online support groups available for this type of loss. While your friends and family will always be there for you, it can also help to connect with others who have gone through the exact same loss.
Seek spiritual guidance:
If you’re religiously inclined, it may also help to speak with a spiritual leader or attend group worship events.
Talk with a therapist:
A grief counselor can help you navigate your pregnancy loss and help you recover more effectively. Depending on your needs, you might also go to couples counseling with your partner.
No matter how many people say, ‘it wasn’t really a baby yet’, you may feel in your heart that it was a baby the moment you conceived and no-one can take that away. Many women start imaging their baby’s future from the moment they knew they were pregnant. You may need some time to mourn your baby and all the hopes and dreams you had for them.
October 5, 2021
How To Register As A Voter In Kenya
What is the process of registering for voting in Kenya
- An eligible voter must present himself or herself to the registration officer with his/her original identification documents at the designated registration centre during working hours.
- The applicant fills the Application for Registration form (Form A)
- Registered voters will be issued with a registration acknowledgement slip bearing the voter′s details.
- However, this slip will not be a requirement for voting.
When is someone considered in eligible for registering as a voter in Kenya?
- When you are under 18 years of age
- When you are not in possession of the original ID card or a valid Kenyan passport
- When one is un-discharged bankrupt
- When you have been found guilty by an election court or reported to be guilty of any election offence during the preceding five years.
- If a competent court declares you to be of unsound mind
Can someone register more than once?
No! A person is only allowed to register once as a voter in a constituency or registration center of his or her choice. It is an offence to register more than once.
What happens if you register more than once?
Persons who have registered more than once are liable on conviction, to a fine not exceeding 100, 000 Kenya shillings or imprisonment for a term not exceeding one year or both. Such persons shall be barred from participating in the immediate election and the next that follows.
Can you transfer as a voter to another registration center or constituency?
YES! A person may transfer as a voter to another registration centre of his or her choice within the registration period.
October 4, 2021
Choosing Kitenge For Your Ruracio! The Unexplored African Fashion Styles (PHOTOS)
Marriage is sharing life with your best friend, enjoying the journey along the way and arriving at every destination together.
Photo from a Mt Kenya ruracio
Its October! The wedding bells will be ringing very soon! As we all know, most Kenyan weddings happen in December, so we are now in the pre-wedding and ruracio season. You may want to begin by thinking about the kind of person you want for a long term relationship like marriage. Normally, most people opt to open the festive season with wedding bells. Well, come to think of it, the joyous seasons bring joy already, why not crown it with love too? After all the season is for family time.
Marriage in the traditional Kenyan context is defined as a rite of passage that every individual is expected to undergo in his or her lifetime, and the integral purpose of this institution is to widen the kinship network of the individual through procreation.
Kenya is home to more than 40 tribes. Each tribe has unique wedding ceremony traditions and marriage practices. Although some elements of the traditional practices related to marriage have been challenged, traditional weddings remain an important piece of African culture and will continue to be passed down for generations to come.
If you have a traditional family, you will likely be very aware of the typical marriage customs and rituals of your tribe. This knowledge can become especially important in inter-tribal marriages. Make sure that you that bring this subject up with both sides of the family, so everybody can have a say in what’s important for them.
As much as these celebrations entails much feasting, dancing and negotiations, don’t forget they also are a platform to showcase how fashionable you can be. Who said traditional attire can’t have a taste of modern? Have you seen how a mixture of traditional attire and modern sense brings out the perfect in your maids? Here are a few pictures of how you can add taste in your ruracio by styling up your maids.
Beautiful, right? Makes you want to have your ruracio, right? Who said white gowns are just for the church wedding? Who said you can’t go white with kitenge? It’s a modern world and white is not only considered for the ‘white wedding’ but also for ruracio. Why be a princess when you can be a queen? Take a moment and look at these gorgeous gowns you can rock in during your traditional wedding.
When it comes to ruracios, first appearances count for a lot. In fact, appearances can sway the demands upwards or downwards. Normally, men have been known to dress down because of the ‘ first impression’ perception that the demands might go up! Did you know you can have a classy look that will sway your in-laws and make them forget about upgrading their demands? Well, here are some looks you can kill without suiting it all up!
October 4, 2021
Another Loss For the Muraya’s: Size 8 Suffers A Second Miscarriage
Size 8 and Dj Mo have announced that they made a bold decision to undergo a medical procedure that saw them lose their baby.
In a video posted on their YouTube channel, the couple revealed that the expectant mother experienced fluctuating temperatures and blood pressure, and was rushed to hospital for check-up.

“My blood pressure rose to a high level and for sometime stayed abnormally high. Doctors tried all their best to manage my pressure but it still kept fluctuating. They even administered different drugs to no avail. Currently my pressure is still high and I had to undergo a surgery,” Size 8 said.
Dj Mo confirmed that the doctors made a decision to save the gospel artiste at the expense of their unborn baby. Mo stated that the Mateke hitmaker underwent a successful medical abortion losing their would be third child.
“As you can see the operation was good, everything has gone well. All I can say is God has a reason for everything. My wife’s blood pressure hit abnormal levels of up to 200-230 mm Hg. We thank God because Linet(Size 8) is very safe. Our doctor advised us, saying that we now had to save the mother. We had no option but to allow them do the procedure,” he said.
Through an Instagram post, the entertainer thanked God and his fans for standing with them. He encouraged his viewers who have or are undergoing similar situations to take heart and brace themselves.
Courtesy of Instagram
Condolences to the Murayas from all of us at Ctone Media.
October 1, 2021
Does Sexual Experience Affect How Couples Perceive Each Other In A Relationship?
Does body count count?
The current dating culture often emphasizes that two people should test their “sexual chemistry” before committing to each other.
This type of compatibility is frequently mentioned as an essential characteristic for people to seek out in romantic relationships, particularly ones that could lead to marriage. Couples who do not test their sexual chemistry prior to the commitments of exclusivity, engagement, and marriage are often seen as putting themselves at risk of getting into a relationship that will not satisfy them in the future—thus increasing their probability of later marital dissatisfaction and divorce.
My question is, does one’s sexual experience affect how their partner perceive them in the relationship? Is it okay for one to have more experience than the other? If the woman has more experience, should that raise questions for the man? What if the man is the more experienced one, is it a plus in the sex game for the woman?
The list is endless! Let us be real, we all ask ourselves these questions sometimes, but do we get answers to them? Everyone’s different, and what’s important for some may not be at all important for others. It ultimately depends on your personal beliefs, physical desires, and the nature of your relationship.
For every new relationship you find yourself in, there comes a time when you and your partner speak of the past and plan for the future, especially when things are becoming pretty serious and commitment is becoming genuine.
Relationship crisis. Young couple yelling at each other on gray studio background
Of all the sexual things you can ask from bae/boo though, the sexual experience question is not necessary. And this is simply because some things are just better left unknown, some information better left undiscovered. Let people divulge it willingly if they choose to. And if they don’t, that’s fine too. Don’t bother them for it. Don’t stress them about it.
Women don’t think of the number of women a man has been with before loving them as they should. Why can’t they be accorded the same courtesy?
Besides, there’s no assurance that the figure she’ll tell you is the accurate thing. And how would you know if she downplayed the numbers just so you don’t run off or start acting strange because of the truth?
Lovely black couple lying in white bed, sleeping together, top view
Really, it’s simple; if you think she is kind, smart, intelligent and fun to be with, how does her body count suddenly change all of the positive vibes you feel with her?
Come to think of it, the only gain you get from knowing about your partner’s sexual experience history is satisfaction for your curiosity.
Does it even matter if he/she is pretty good in bed and have kinky ideas he/she likes to try? Is overthinking worth spoiling the priceless intimate time you’d have had with your partner? So what if he/she is a master/mistress in sexual positions? Will that improve your dating experience?
Most times, guys can’t even deal with the truth especially when the babe in question is one that has truly explored her sexuality before they came into the picture.
I find this hysterical given the joke (that’s not a joke) that says; If you want to know the actual number of sexual partners a man has had you take the number he tells you and cut in half. If you want the number for a woman you take the number she tells you and multiply by three. I know that’s an over generalization but in my experience it’s not off by much. Now, to the facts.
This is where I get to talk about how unfair it is that guys could have slept with over 10 girls and will be hailed a champ and a woman does the same and she’s a tramp. That just doesn’t seem right especially now that gender equality is being called for more.
Ladies, you are all absolutely free to do whatever & whoever you wish. However, every choice any of us makes has a consequence, good or bad. Our entire lives are directed by each choice we make each day. If you want to hook up with every Tom, Dick & Harry (T, D & H) that’s your choice.
If I don’t want to have a relationship with or marry you because you’ve hooked up with every T, D & H that’s my choice. No man wants to marry & no child wants their mother to be, or to have been, the town bicycle.
If there ever was a list of information that do not have any bearing on that beautiful relationship/marriage happiness you seek, the sexual experience question surely has to be in the top five.
It’s that unimportant.
The bottom line
What’s important is that you find a partner who understands your needs and desires, no matter what they are. Open communication is essential for every romantic and sexual relationship.
October 1, 2021
“It’s A Boy!” Rotimi And Vanessa Mdee Welcome Their First Born Baby
Tanzanian singer, Vanessa Mdee, 32, has welcomed her first baby with Nigerian-born Hollywood actor and singer, Akinosho Olurotimi, professionally known as Rotimi, 33. The couple had announced that they were expecting a child together weeks ago.
Courtesy of Instagram
Mdee took to her Instagram page on Wednesday, 29, September, to share a picture of two adult fingers holding a baby finger.
She captioned the picture with the baby’s name, “Seven Adeoluwa Akinosho”, after his dad. However, the date of delivery was not disclosed.
Similarly, The America actor took to his verified Instagram page to replicate Mdee’s post; sharing the same picture and caption.
In an exclusive interview with People Mdee revealed that the journey has been a smooth one so far with minor challenges as the pregnancy nears its final weeks.
“He’s been so good to us. No real pain or symptoms. Some funny cravings and food aversions here and there. It’s been much harder in these final weeks because he’s preparing his arrival, but all in all we’ve been super blessed,” she said.
In her Instagram post, fans took it to congratulate the couple on this journey. Many East African celebrities have also shared in their joy by congratulating the latter.
Wema Sepetu went ahead to show support for her friend Mdee by commenting:
“Im sooo jealous…. 😢😢😢 Congrats my baby…😍😍😍”
Fans replied to her comment by encouraging her not to give up because her time will come. Vanessa Mdee replied to her saying:
“@wemasepetu one day you will share a testimony too and it will be beautiful and you will have a child. IJN! Amen 🙏🏽”
Congratulations to the couple from all of us at Ctone Media.
September 30, 2021
Bloggers Association of Kenya (BAKE) Launches 2021 Awards
The Bloggers Association of Kenya (BAKE) launched this year’s the BAKE Awards on 14^th September 2021. This announcement was made the same day at which submissions for the bloggers competition was to start.
The annual blogging competition, now in its ninth year, honors and recognizes outstanding bloggers in each area. The tournament was postponed last year owing to the COVID-19 outbreak and ultimately did not take place.
This year’s BAKE Awards 2021 will be out today, September 14th, 2021, with submissions in a variety of categories. Following that, judges will select the best 5 nominations from the submitted blogs, which will then be available for public voting. The winners will then be announced during a virtual gala event in December.
BAKE Awards 2021 Schedule
1. Submissions phase –14th September – 20th October 2021
2. Judging phase – 21st October -1st November 2021
3. Online voting – 2nd November – 10th December 2021
4. Virtual Winners’ Gala event – 17th December 2021
In 2019, we added a new category called Best Podcast, which was won for the first time by Amani Maranga. There are currently 24 different categories to choose from.
JustJoykendi.com, which received the overall Kenyan Blog of the Year award, Lyraoko.com in the photography category, leotunapika.com in the culinary category, africancityplanner.com in the environmental category, and fashionablestepmum.com in the fashion and style area were also among the winners.
Joy Kendi
In 2019, the competition had more than 10,000 blog submissions and 800,000 votes. The awards were dominated by women, with 15 of the 23 categories being won by women.
Submissions will be accepted in 23 categories, with each blog being limited to one category in which it best fits. There is an exemption, however, for new blogs (those launched after January 2019), which can be filed in both the New Blog and any other category where they suit. The stipulation that three-time (or more) award winners are unable to compete remains in place.
BAKE Awards
Bloggers and their fans can enter the BAKE Awards 2021 by going to bakeawards.co.ke/submit.
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Check out the available categories; bakeawards.co.ke/categories
September 29, 2021
What If Your Bae Likes Partying And You Don’t, Is It Okay To Let Them Go Out Alone?
If you’ve ever been asked, “Do you and your partner go out a lot?” you might answer like one of the millions of couples who’d chuckle and say, “Yes, sure we do. But not together”. But you don’t want to stay home all the time, so you trade-off on social events?
Of course, this isn’t a rallying cry for spouses to say, “See! This proves that I should be able to do what I want when I want.” Instead, as a couples mediator, I bring the peaceful negotiation method to the table, which is, ask first, enjoy second. If you want to attend an event or make a social plan, talk to your mate before you commit. Offer to trade-off and encourage your mate to take a guilt-free night out for him/herself while you stay home.
Live venues in Nairobi, Kenya, featureing Brew Bistro, Choices and K1. Photo by Caitlin Nordahl
I think it’s perfectly healthy to go out with your friends for a night of drinks (or whatever) and fun. No one says that just because you are going out without your significant other that you are going to cheat, or do something that would upset them. I’m not sure if it is generational or if it is just the norm, but I think it’s really odd that girls who go out with their girlfriends get talked badly about. I mean really, I go out with a girlfriend for a few drinks at a bar, and the next week there is a rumor going around that I’m cheating on my boyfriend with my ex-boyfriend from like 6 years ago. If a guy goes out alone, then he must be trying to hook up with some other girl. Are we really that simple minded?
Some argue that it’s a respect thing, we’ll if I’m not doing anything to disrespect my relationship, why do we have to be joined at the hip? I am an adult and sometimes I need my space. I love my significant other, but just like when you spend too much time with your siblings, and you start to just get annoyed at them for chewing “too loud“, the same goes for your spouse. The sun does not set in their ass every waking moment of the day. As much as we love them so much and want to spend the rest of our lives with them does not mean we want to spend the rest of the day with them!
I guess it depends on the context. Is it a college style drunken party where you won’t know many people, and barely know the host? That’s inappropriate in my eyes. Those parties are specifically intended for hookups and meet ups.
Happy group of men at a bachelor party at a nightclub having fun
Is your close friend or colleague throwing a house party/barbecue where you’ll know most of the people and generally be expected to behave yourself? That’s completely different.
The difference is the party intention.
Group Of Female Friends Enjoying Night Out At Rooftop Bar
Would you feel comfortable if she went to some ranger party with kegs and frat boys without you? What if her best friend is just having a little shindig, and she will know the company before hand?
I suppose most importantly, what does she think? If you’re asking this in the first place, there’s a little guilt involved, right?
Shot of a group of young people having fun in a nightclub
You are allowed to have a life with or without a girlfriend /boyfriend. Being young is what life is about memories. At your age relationships come and go. It is healthy to do things with friends.
Shot of a couple having their picture taken while out on a date
I’ll tell you what the best thing ever is, going out for a girls night, sexy texting your better half after the third glass of wine, finally getting home, having him take you to the bathroom, and curling up in bed knowing damn well he is going to play nurse the next day because you will be hung over as shit. It rocks. I don’t want to go home with anyone else but my spouse, because let’s be honest, I get annoyed with drunk me, and I finally found a man who puts up with that bitch, I’m keeping that crazy man!
Bottom line guys, is spending your life with someone is the most amazing thing you can do. Finding someone who you want to commit your entire self to is beautiful. But at the end of the day, you cannot argue that having a sense of independence is crucial to making a relationship work. You don’t want to always be waiting around for someone to get off work so you can have some interaction, make your own friends, and live a life that is full.
September 29, 2021
VIDEO: Kamene Goro And Andrew Kibe Tear Into Each Other In Latest Celebrity War
Andrew Kibe’s sentiments on various celebrities and how they should act is now haunting him after numerous savage comebacks from both his fans and Kenyan celebrities.
Most of his videos weren’t bugging anyone until recently; when he seemed to cross the line. To begin with, Kibe picked a ‘fight’ with Jalang’o over him supporting ‘Mtumba man’; who became an internet sensation for his creativity in cross-dressing while making his sales.
In a bitter war of words, both Jalang’o and Eric Omondi left no stone unturned about Kibe as they hit back at him for his endless criticisms.
However, Kibe did not stop after learning he has also been scolded over his views. In his latest dig at celebrities he took on various media personalities for keeping quiet and not speaking for the suffering Kenyans.
These guys, Eric Omondi, said nothing. Jalas said nothing, Kamene Goro, nothing. Betty Kyallo, nothing. Mamito, just showing us her tits. Njugush ni mehemehe tu. None of this motherf*s have opened their mouth to say that wakenya wananyanyaswa… Everybody is quiet.

Fresh from picking fights with comedians Eric Omondi and Jalango, former radio host Andrew Kibe has now turned the gun on his ex-colleague Kamene Goro. In a frenzy of rage, Kamene Goro replied to Andrew Kibe as she commented on the video saying;
Me??? Surely?? Seems you stopped listening to radio since you left? Bro, keep current, don’t draw me into these rants of yours, respectfully. I am always on the front line.
Kamene Goro
The duo who worked together at NRG radio before moving to Kiss 100 has grown a cold relationship since they departed ways at the Radio Africa-owned station.
In a recent Instagram Q&A, Kamene revealed that they are no longer friends despite their tight relationship as colleagues.
We grew apart. Life happens
She remarked.
And from the numerous comments, a good number of Kibe’s fans believe that the origin of his sentiments are not obscure while addressing these celebrities. Here are some of the comments from his Instagram page:
karanja_._mbugua
Njugush talks about the bad happening in the country using his art
wangiha_jb
Mimi ni heri niskize mtu ‘amewekwa na mmama’ apparently, kuliko niskize mtu ako paid off na some dirty politician somewhere

patrickkabuda
Judy anakuita akunyanyase😂😂😂
ramahcosta
Then why didn’t you appreciate Edgar obare???? He said something
nash_.evah_
Mammitooooooooo🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💔💔💔💔eeeish baba
wambui_wanyutu
Ujinga iko na wakenya trust me it cant be liberated..Kazi ni kutrolliana na kudissiana kwa internet instead of using that energy on boycotting the system..Siwezi simama pekee yangu na sauti yangu juu kakinuka wakenya ni wale wakutoa simu kuanza kurecord ukishikwa juu ya kuongea ukweli alafu waanze kukutroll kwa media..Hakuna siku youths wa Kenya watakua na voice moja..Some are paid bagas who fit in the system or have been paid to ensure we aren’t liberated..We are a failed state

edaqamaou
This guy is really controversial but on this, we really need to style and stand up otherwise we will soon be colonized by out very own
biddle7562
He can speak his truth without cursing people out, maybe more people would hear him out, also people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.
chrry_cox_dabada
Come back to your country, don’t shout when you are away, come we face it together, you talking facts but you need to be in this soil of 🇰🇪,
kazungu215
Si unge ongea ukiwa huku ujue gave si relative wako
jonathan.mcokello.5
Kibe… You’re speaking truth kabisaa! Lakini it’s worthless. Fighting people like Eric… Si poa do your shit.let him do his😢😢
ericbellshigali
@kibeandy look@at this comment section 76% of it, people saying about you sijui and Eric, sijui wewe and Judy 😢… Kibe this are the Idiots your trying to rescue from the system eating them and they can’t. Wajinga tu they constantly miss the point. At one day i posted about a bad road in our place, and the people commented that as a rich person, I shouldn’t be staying there, as if the less fortunate in the same country, should be subjected to such road. Citizens here are rather fools, starting from this verified influencers who are closer to the people who make laws out here. Until today the president has not said a word about fuel, and all they care about is where Kibe’s “charger” is charging… hawa wata change fuel ikifika 300ksh a Litre i guess
September 29, 2021
Is It Okay To Talk To Your Ex While In A Relationship?
Is possible to be friends with your ex without it affecting your new relationship?
Have you ever wondered if it’s wrong to talk to your ex while you’re in a relationship with another person? If you have and you’re still curious, I can tell you that it’s often very wrong.
Honestly, you can’t, and to think of it, there isn’t any need to be in contact with your ex. The reason is that whatever you had with that person will echo in your current relationship. Memories you shared with that person will linger around you. Remember this person was once your whole world, your ‘pillar’, how do you even start friend zoning such a person without harboring the old feelings?
If you’re truly ready to commit to a new relationship, then you need to forget about old romances. It’s nice if you can be on friendly terms with your ex, but that’s what they exactly are; an ex is nothing but ‘History’. Actually, talking to your ex while in another relationship is very disrespectful because that is being dishonest!
What people say, is that really true?
People like to think that there isn’t any romance left in the old relationship, that they truly are just friends . But at some point, you can’t help but think that you’ve been intimate with this person, you’ve loved them; there was a time when you thought that you’d last forever.
The experiences you had with this person will stay with you forever. So, talking to an ex while in a relationship will only make matters more worse for you.
And if you decide to talk to your ex while being with someone else, then what will happen if you are suddenly caught up in a sacrificing situation? Who will you prioritize if your ex suddenly needs you? Whose feelings do you sacrifice?
Its kind of you to be there for that person and not hold any grudges but it’s a cruel kindness that you’re inflicting.
At the same time, you are being unfair to your new partner by reminding them that they are not special. It also states that your loyalty is divided. You have already experienced a love that you thought would never end, and that past love still exists in your life.
If you are truly ready to invest yourself in your new relationship, if you truly love them, you owe them a clean slate – a relationship where your love is unique and irreplaceable and not a love that came after the one you had before. Besides, you wouldn’t want your partner to talk to his or her ex and mess with the stability of your relationship, right?
It isn’t healthy to live in the past.
Your ex is your past, and that is where they should stay. What if your ex still has feelings for you? And if they do, they will always be hinting at getting back together or mention how they miss being with you. This may divert your attention, and you will lose focus from your current relationship.
All in all, staying in touch with your ex is not a good option for you, and you must try your best to move on.
However!
There are circumstances where you have to talk to your ex. For instance, your ex happens to be your workmate, talking to him or her shouldn’t be consider bad for your new relationship. As long as you keep it formal and strictly work related.
September 28, 2021